Author SadPhil Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 yeah.... **** my life a part of me is still hoping that maybe she would message me again...
Dis Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 yeah.... **** my life a part of me is still hoping that maybe she would message me again... The sooner you come to accept the fact that its over, the sooner you'll feel better. Plenty of fish out there....this girl wasnt all that....stop romantizing her and what you thought you had with her...let it go hun. Theres women out there that will actually want to be with you....look forward to that 2
RedPurpleOrange Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 yeah.... **** my life a part of me is still hoping that maybe she would message me again... Phil, stop being a desperate, pathetic wretch. It won't get you anywhere! The time you have now is 'free' time. Time to work on yourself, go out, have fun, play that video game you were putting off because she was on your mind, get hench, get better. Kick ass. In some ways, this is one of the best lessons life is teaching you. Once you get through it all and onto the next, you will understand. Like I said, women can stench desperation in a man. It is the worst, most unattractive quality for a man to have...unless you're after a chronic looker-after, babying type of person (and they're usually nutty and needy). No contact will tell you ALL you need to know in this situation. About her, about yourself. And all the time you aren't being messed about...you will be HEALING. Not being cruel, just get your head out from your bum-bum. 2
guitardude31 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 The sooner you come to accept the fact that its over, the sooner you'll feel better. Plenty of fish out there....this girl wasnt all that....stop romantizing her and what you thought you had with her...let it go hun. Theres women out there that will actually want to be with you....look forward to that While I agree that he needs to move on and your points overall, I will have to disagree on one point. "There's women out there that will actually want to be with you" That is lie for the vast majority of men who generally have far far more realistic expectations for romance and love, and can at least know the difference between contentment and complacency. Men also, according to the data we have, tend to fall harder and faster (due to the lopsided difficulty for men to find interest at all, no doubt). They tend to love more idealistically, and females more opportunistically. Statistically speaking we all have terrible odds of finding anyone single that we find attractive, let alone mutually, and THEN to have them also be compatible. This is compounded for men, as they tend to have far fewer options as they are generally the ones having to do the work and pursuing. Women generally are the gatekeepers and choosers, and can putz around until the next dude comes along. They have more choice. (they may not always like said choices, but they have more of them just the same.) But you are right to tell this guy not to pedestal this woman or any for that matter. Hopefully he has better luck next time.
Dis Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 While I agree that he needs to move on and your points overall, I will have to disagree on one point. "There's women out there that will actually want to be with you" That is lie for the vast majority of men who generally have far far more realistic expectations for romance and love, and can at least know the difference between contentment and complacency. Men also, according to the data we have, tend to fall harder and faster (due to the lopsided difficulty for men to find interest at all, no doubt). They tend to love more idealistically, and females more opportunistically. Statistically speaking we all have terrible odds of finding anyone single that we find attractive, let alone mutually, and THEN to have them also be compatible. This is compounded for men, as they tend to have far fewer options as they are generally the ones having to do the work and pursuing. Women generally are the gatekeepers and choosers, and can putz around until the next dude comes along. They have more choice. (they may not always like said choices, but they have more of them just the same.) But you are right to tell this guy not to pedestal this woman or any for that matter. Hopefully he has better luck next time. Hun, I get where your coming from by I stand by my initial point...there is someone out there for everyone. Pls dont think that I'm saying its easy to find a partner....its a tedious, frustrating and sometimes painful process but as long as a person remains hopeful, keeps an open mind, and keeps putting themselves out there, it will happen eventually. I think your also overlooking all the problems women face when dating. We generally do not have these carefree dating lives you think we do. We get burned when we date too. I think your overall perspective that women are the "gatekeepers" isnt accurate at all. If you were a women you would know how many a**holes there are out there that toy with us and throw us away. We also have to weed these jerks out...distinguish the difference between a good guy and a bad one...which is really hard to do. We also have alot of the same problems men do when dating. I dont understand why you think women have this magical advantage when dating...we dont. We may have an advantage when it comes to sex but thats about it. I do agree however that men fall in love more quickly than women... but some women fall just as hard. In general I think dating is equally challenging for both men and women.
stillminds Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Something similar happened to me a few months ago, except it wasn't about kissing/holding hands/etc, it was about sex. I initiated kissing on the 2nd date after she initiated hand holding/cuddling. Then she tried to initiate sex after the third date. But me as a virgin was simply too nervous, maybe I wasn't ready idk. If I could go back, I'd man up and bang her haha. This was when she cut me off. She never explained why, but after so much pondering I finally understand. Moral of the story: if she's giving you obvious signals and you want to keep her, just do it. Sure you might suffer temporarily but it's better than risking losing her completely, amirite.
Author SadPhil Posted May 25, 2016 Author Posted May 25, 2016 Yeah... I Feel like she will forever be "the one that got away" I felt like we were perfect for each other and I am kinda disappointed that she didn't say anything to me, not that I expected her to, but it would've been nice if there were SOME indication
Dis Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 Yeah... I Feel like she will forever be "the one that got away" I felt like we were perfect for each other and I am kinda disappointed that she didn't say anything to me, not that I expected her to, but it would've been nice if there were SOME indication You're still on this hun???? Move on....look towards the future...start connecting with new women. Let this one go...geez
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