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So I work with this man, very attractive <VERY> when I started he smiled at me and as those days went by there was a lot of eye contact and he got close to me and I'm 100% sure my face was red, probably knew I liked him and I do. But one day I came in and I saw him (I wasn't working) and he talked and once I got to the aisle I needed to be, he asked if I could kiss him and I was obviously did, just a peck on the lips . Then he asked for tounge . That happened. Then we went our separate ways. Then yesterday we went to the janitors closet and it was a good 8 minutes we were In there making out. Now I don't know am I just feeding his ego, does he actually like me, what does he want? Cause I've already grown emotionally attached . And I don't want to have to quit because of him. please help! Is he in it because I am okay with him kissing me? Or does he like me? In the beginning it seemed .like it but idk anymore. I also feel like he is married and I don't know how to ask , not all men wear wedding bands. He says "I have two cuties at home like you"

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Tayla Established Member

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hmmm...what are you gaining from this antic? Usually the payoff runs both ways.

 

Workplace antics are not how to move up in the world, you'll always be creating a reputation that could impede future employ.

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So I work with this man, very attractive <VERY> when I started he smiled at me and as those days went by there was a lot of eye contact and he got close to me and I'm 100% sure my face was red, probably knew I liked him and I do. But one day I came in and I saw him (I wasn't working) and he talked and once I got to the aisle I needed to be, he asked if I could kiss him and I was obviously did, just a peck on the lips . Then he asked for tounge . That happened. Then we went our separate ways. Then yesterday we went to the janitors closet and it was a good 8 minutes we were In there making out. Now I don't know am I just feeding his ego, does he actually like me, what does he want? Cause I've already grown emotionally attached . And I don't want to have to quit because of him. please help! Is he in it because I am okay with him kissing me? Or does he like me? In the beginning it seemed .like it but idk anymore. I also feel like he is married and I don't know how to ask , not all men wear wedding bands. He says "I have two cuties at home like you"

 

He...compared you to his daughters when he was making out with you? How did you manage to swallow back your vomit? Does he molest his daughters as well?

 

How old are you?

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I think he is doing it bc you are allowing it. I think he probably wants a fling and thats about it.

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So I work with this man, very attractive <VERY> when I started he smiled at me and as those days went by there was a lot of eye contact and he got close to me and I'm 100% sure my face was red, probably knew I liked him and I do. But one day I came in and I saw him (I wasn't working) and he talked and once I got to the aisle I needed to be, he asked if I could kiss him and I was obviously did, just a peck on the lips . Then he asked for tounge . That happened. Then we went our separate ways. Then yesterday we went to the janitors closet and it was a good 8 minutes we were In there making out. Now I don't know am I just feeding his ego, does he actually like me, what does he want? Cause I've already grown emotionally attached . And I don't want to have to quit because of him. please help! Is he in it because I am okay with him kissing me? Or does he like me? In the beginning it seemed .like it but idk anymore. I also feel like he is married and I don't know how to ask , not all men wear wedding bands. He says "I have two cuties at home like you"

 

 

That's just absolutely vile....

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I just threw up in my mouth a little. What a pervert. :sick:

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Based on the title of your post, I am guessing that you are both men. Is that correct? So he is an older man, hitting on a younger man at work?

 

You mention that you think he is married and that he alluded to having two children at home. Is he married to a woman?

 

I think these questions are relevant because your situation might also involve dealing with someone who is closeted, and it's unclear if you are "out" yourself.

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i think if a guy takes you into a closet to kiss you....that it isnt a good sign....means whatever you are doing...you shouldnt be doing it.....period...deb

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ChickiePops Established Member

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Based on the title of your post, I am guessing that you are both men. Is that correct? So he is an older man, hitting on a younger man at work?

 

You mention that you think he is married and that he alluded to having two children at home. Is he married to a woman?

 

I think these questions are relevant because your situation might also involve dealing with someone who is closeted, and it's unclear if you are "out" yourself.

 

Pretty sure the OP is female..unless the name Kayla has transitioned from female to male? I guess if Caitlyn Jenner can do it, so can Kayla. ;)

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Ruffian1 Established Member

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I also feel like he is married and I don't know how to ask

 

 

 

 

Are you married? That would be how you ask.

 

 

He will probably lie about it though.

 

 

He will want his free closet time with you.

 

 

You sound very naïve.

 

 

Oh, the two cuties comment . . . . it is NOT a complement.

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privategal Established Member

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I picture this guy to be too old for you, and with bad breath (sorry, just thought that)

Also...when you arent even dating...not even sat down to a cup of coffee and he says...can you kiss me...I dont know..Im not old fashioned but...wheres the romance, the buildup?

Rushing on his behalf to me is a red flag.

It also says quickie, meaningless...

If he isnt wearing a ring...likely divorced..mm wonder why...

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So I work with this man, very attractive <VERY> when I started he smiled at me and as those days went by there was a lot of eye contact and he got close to me and I'm 100% sure my face was red, probably knew I liked him and I do. But one day I came in and I saw him (I wasn't working) and he talked and once I got to the aisle I needed to be, he asked if I could kiss him and I was obviously did, just a peck on the lips . Then he asked for tounge . That happened. Then we went our separate ways. Then yesterday we went to the janitors closet and it was a good 8 minutes we were In there making out. Now I don't know am I just feeding his ego, does he actually like me, what does he want? Cause I've already grown emotionally attached . And I don't want to have to quit because of him. please help! Is he in it because I am okay with him kissing me? Or does he like me? In the beginning it seemed .like it but idk anymore. I also feel like he is married and I don't know how to ask , not all men wear wedding bands. He says "I have two cuties at home like you"

 

He is married, and has two daughters close to your age (bolded) so please, run away from him. This man will NOT fall in love with you! He's older, wiser and knows how to play young ones - He just wants to get you into bed.

 

If you like your job and want to protect your professional reputation STAY away from him or quit, find another job. If you don't leave him alone and you continue to play this little game in hopes something more will happen, you will be the one hurting and wanting to quit, wanting to run away. He will play you like a fiddle.

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Granted I'm not the most worldly or experienced of people, but I struggle to think of any great romance that started in a janitor's closet.

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Pretty sure the OP is female..unless the name Kayla has transitioned from female to male? I guess if Caitlyn Jenner can do it, so can Kayla. ;)

 

I guess she could have meant "younger" as in "i'm younger and he's an older man" not "a younger man and an older man, which is how I read it."

 

In that case, this is not complicated at all. Get away from this creep, married or not. He doesn't like you in the way you hope. He is using you and nothing good will come of this for you. He does not respect you, and he shows indications of being a sexual predator.

 

Change jobs if you can. If you are working for a large retailer, you can transfer. Report him to a supervisor. This is not romance.

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No I'm a girl I'm sorry I tried to edit wouldn't let me

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Thank you for the replies, I do agree with you all and will take the advice

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Kayla, that sounds really bad. How old are you and how old is this guy?

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It sounds like you're just kind of amused by the attention.

 

The "2 cuties at home" comment was really creepy. I mean, what do you think he meant by that? His 2 dogs?

 

Just tell yourself to snap out of it. You can go pick up someone at a bar tonight who will give you the same kind of fast-moving, insincere attention with the hopes of getting in your pants. And hey, if you want to, then go for it. Just stay away from the creepy probably-married possibly-a-pedophile man at work.

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Hi Kayla,

To reiterate what everyone else has said already:

 

1. That comment alone "I have two cuties at home like you"--on SO many levels is beyond disturbing and sick. Suggests a very perverted behavior.

 

2. The way he approached and lured you in--HE asked YOU for a kiss, then asked for a "tongue" (?!?), then in the janitor's closet--all of this is an awful way to degrade anyone's dignity. Even if he wasn't married, even if he didn't have kids, even if he wasn't so old, the way he has used you for his pleasure is truly sick.

 

3. On a final note, and more importantly, WHY would you fall for a man like that? That's not a criticism--it's a question you need to work on. I am learning the hard way that the "wrong" people I have had/kept/attracted actually says a lot more about myself than it does about those people. I am in therapy and only beginning to understand how/why I seem to be following a self-destructive pattern of unhealthy people in my life due to my own lack of self esteem. I get the feeling you may have a similar issue that needs to be addressed. Again, I am not criticizing you, I am suggesting that you see this entire incident as a warning sign and an opportunity to focus and work on yourself.

 

May I ask how your relationship with your own father is/was?

 

May I ask that you consider speaking with a therapist--not because you have problem, but because a good therapist can help you see/identify patterns of behavior that we are often unaware of.

 

Seeing a therapist cannot harm--but it can be an eye-opener.

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Kayla, you are a young girl, this your time honey. Don't spend the best years of your life with some middle aged man whose idea of a romance is making out with a girl in the janitorial closet.

 

Go out and find yourself a young hot stud who has a 6 pack stomach and a smile that would put Brad Pitt to shame.

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