TimmyC Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 I was doing really good for about a week, for the first time I was content, I wasn't angry... Then as I got off work I saw my ex pass by my job. I wanted to chalk it off as maybe it was a coincidence but I literally work by an aircraft runway so the highway is in a rural area. She's done this before when we first got back together, only she came to my job and claimed she was visiting a friend... Seeing her made me feel angry and this time bitter. I attempted to join a dating site to meet friends in attempts to get my thoughts off of her, and I met this nice girl but there are times I get too depressed and bitter to message people. My therapist hasnt quite helped me with my personal struggles that this woman put me through such as the abuse and whatnot... I guess I just need positive vibes and advice from you guys. I'm hoping that hearing enough truth will help drown out some of the aweful things she has said to me. I hate her so much for what she has done... How could you tell someone that you love that they are a "f**king idiot" and call them crazy, and when they are begging for you not to leave them you embarrass them by having your phone on speaker for your friends to hear. So as she moves forward happily ever after I continue to remember her words. I can't look at wedding rings to this day because I'll always remember that she was upset that it did not have diamonds. So sorry to rant, I'm just a bit torn right now.
SixxChick Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Don't construe this as a huge set back. Look, it's a bitch getting over the heartbreak. And the "it's over" part. You know where to go to find advice about moving on. There are many threads and good people here who can offer solutions. But there is no real prescription for the pain. It sucks. But you will get through it. I am only responding because I am going through it too. At the very least, know that you are not alone. Strength and honor. 2
Rachel39 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 I would try not to think of it as a set back but maybe a trigger which is normal and some reflection. Which I would say is healthy and part of the grieving process. You have to go through it to be ok at the other side and when your emotions have caught up you will see that you have a heart and emotions and that she seems to be very immature and cruel in which will do her no favours. Let her repeat the same mistakes by then you will be happy and content and so greatful that's she's someone else's problem 2
makemyday Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Hi Timmy, Healing is definitely not a linear process. Sometimes, it's two steps forward, one step back. You get through it by doing what you're doing-acknowledging the feelings and reaching out for support. You get through it one moment at a time. I haven't gone back through your story, but she sounds like an awful person with some deep issues. Hugs to you! 1
seamos Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 TimmyC; it's been a while back now but I also went thru a breakup where the woman I loved seemed to suddenly enjoy destroying my heart and self-esteem. The one thing you can count on in the not so distant future is looking back on her w/ no emotion other than thinking "What the hell was I doing wasting my time w/ her?" Like others say, "one day at a time". I'm wishing the best for you. 3
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