pinkerton15 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Can anyone on here relate to this? I broke up with someone a few months ago. It wasn't really a conventional relationship, but I really fell for her and she pretty much f**ked me over big time. Anyways, it has been like 2-3 months. I actually feel OK about it, but for some reason I just can't seem to get my confidence back w women, or I just keep on screwing it up. It's like no matter how hard I try I just keep making mistakes. I used to be pretty ok with women, I mean there was a time when I was dating like 4 different girls at the same time. So it's not like I don't know how to do this, but I always feel like with courting, dating etc. you just have to get it right.. like.. exactly right.. I wouldn't even know how to explain it. Anyways my question is, has anyone ever felt like this before? and if so what did you do about it? Did you just force yourself until you got it right, or did you just wait? I'm kinda looking for people's experiences, as opposed to just advice.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Absolutely. Let me paint you a picture... I was married and completely faithful to one very conservative man for 20 years. Divorced and became single again at age 40. Now add to this the fact that the last 8 years of my marriage was sexless! How do you think my mojo was when it was time to jump back into the dating pool?! LOL!! I seriously lost my groove and I was petrified that I would never find it again, especially at 40 - yikes. But I did and BIG time! My experience was rather unconventional in that I joined an adult online community. It was there where I got the chance to stretch out my legs, get used to chatting and flirting and engaging in witty sexual banter with men (and women) around the world. It was very interactive and i learned a lot about other people's take on things like relationship and sex but also my own which turned out to be the building blocks for getting back my mojo. All those experiences gave me the confidence I needed to venture out and be the person I knew to be deep down. And it's been a one hell of a wild ride ever since!
coolheadal Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 You need to take a break for a few months. Take a vacation go somewhere you never been prior. Stop trying so hard also. Dating so many at the same time not helping matters also. Getting over some one you fully open your mind and heart too takes time to heal. You can always put them in box and out of your mind. That works for me. Can't rush things like your doing. Ease-up and take a very deep breath and then say the word relax with each deep breath for 3 times every time you feel this way. Got to clear your mind!
preraph Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 I came back from a long depression wherein I completely lost my considerable mojo by reading my diaries. If you don't have those, you should sit down and start writing about the best times of your life and read them back. Maybe you will remember who you are and what you're made of. Good luck.
phineas Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 It comes and goes brother. Sometimes i meet nothing but women who shy away from me as if i'm a leper. UNLCEAN!! UNCLEAN!! and sometimes i can do no wrong, say anything stupid and be swimming in it.
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