Broken923 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 I was with this guy for over a year, everything was amazing we had a connection that was out of this world. Just one touch from him and my soul felt his recharged. He was my soulmate and best friend. It all changes over night he started texting me less our phone calls were getting shorter he started ignoring me. I knew something wasn't right but he kept saying it's just because he's busy. He broke up with me via email. He won't even reply to a text. I haven't spoken to him in over 2 months and it hurts so bad. He destroyed me. Yesterday a guy I work with whom I haven't spoken to in over a year came up to me and told me he saw "my friend" meaning my ex. I keep my relationship's quiet while at work so not many people knew I was with him. The 2 of them are aquantansis. I think my ex put him up to it but I'm not sure. Do you think he was checking to see what I would say or am I reading to much into this?
ashteller Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 (edited) It's very possible because men can be manipulative and I know this for a fact, just trust me. I can see it as if he did ask this acquaintance to say that to you it could be to see your reaction either through body language or what you may have to say. Unless a guy is very cold, we will still have some type of feeling toward someone we know or used to be with. Even relationships I ended I still felt something toward them even if it wasn't romantic feelings. It's very hard to say. Honestly anything and everything is up in the air. My experiences is everything is pure and open ended. There is no template for love or relationships. Edited May 14, 2016 by ashteller Darn auto incorrect. 1
privategal Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 This happened to me after 2 YEARS of closeness & friendship...over NIGHT ...Gone...ghosted...no email...no phonecalls. It KILLED ME at the time. You have to be dead back...no phone email text fb instagram twitter or drive bys...not even a smoke signal...nooooo contact ever ever and theres a CHANCE he could be back...likely you wont be interested by then but he did it fast, simple (for him) quick and easy to avoid conflict or deal with your emotions. Running fast is easier than facing tears, questions and your pain. Guilt eventually sets in or missing the dumpee but ONLY if you NEVER contact Aever...hard as it is....go dark...do not hope. Do not wish...grieve (as BREIFLY as you can..TAKE your time, just dont wallow) and let go as if he died...maybe, MAYBE he will return to talk...I wouldnt let him personally but do read the no contact guide in breakup section at top and follow to the letter...just do it. 1
TunaCat Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 My ex, who was also my best friend broke up with me out of the blue a year or so ago. It was unbelievably painful and I missed him so much at first. We both kinda initiated NC, but he broke NC three times in the first 3 weeks after the breakup. I did not even OPEN his messages. I just deleted them, totally unread. I don't know if your ex put this other guy up to it, but if he did, that's the cowardly way to handle things. If he wants to know how you're doing or whatever than HE can find a way to contact you his self and not use a middleman to do it. 2
LostOnes05 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 He broke up with you via email...that tells you all you need to know. 4
ExpatInItaly Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Wow, your ex is jerk. A break-up via email after a year together? Oh, h*ll no. It doesn't matter if your ex put this other guy up to it. You need to stay away from anyone who shows such little consideration for your feelings. 2
Author Broken923 Posted May 14, 2016 Author Posted May 14, 2016 I told him my one of my biggest fear in life was getting close to someone letting them in letting the walls down and them just walking away no explanation no nothing and he did exactly that.
SixxChick Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 (edited) He broke up with you via email...that tells you all you need to know. You rock. And I was wondering who/what my 100th post was going to be in reference to. LostOnes05 ... WOOT! Edited May 14, 2016 by SixxChick
elaine567 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Yesterday a guy I work with whom I haven't spoken to in over a year came up to me and told me he saw "my friend" meaning my ex. I keep my relationship's quiet while at work so not many people knew I was with him. The 2 of them are aquantansis. I think my ex put him up to it but I'm not sure. Do you think he was checking to see what I would say or am I reading to much into this? What did he actually say about "your friend" apart from the fact he saw him? 1
Author Broken923 Posted May 14, 2016 Author Posted May 14, 2016 He said he looked like he was doing good and was clean shaven and dressed nice. Stuff that didn't really matter at all.
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