Jose1 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 the girl I started to talk to ask me if I was married she was asking more questions too. Why would she ask this??
ashteller Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 To know how available you are perhaps or she may be fishing to see that if you are currently single maybe her asking you that would prompt you to say you used to be married and are either separated or divorced. If that was the case. Could be a tactic to gain information because she is interested.
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 She was expressing interest & making sure she wasn't stepping on somebody else's toes. I can't believe you have never been asked this. "are you seeing anyone?" "do you have a BF/GF?" and "are you married" are all very common Qs. Get used to it. This won't be the last time you hear the Q. 4
Emilia Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 the girl I started to talk to ask me if I was married she was asking more questions too. Why would she ask this?? Why do you think? Think about this, why would you ask a woman these questions yourself?
Author Jose1 Posted May 14, 2016 Author Posted May 14, 2016 (edited) I didn't word that right. When I walked by her the first time she said hi after that I said how are your she didn't say anything. Then maybe 15 min later she walk by me I wasn't going to say anything she stop and ask me if I was married and other questions. She is also a co-worker I just don't know? I first met her about 5 months ago I will see her again in a few days. Sorry for not being clear the first time. Edited May 14, 2016 by Jose1
preraph Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Being a coworker, it might just be polite chit-chat. But if not, I mean, it's perfectly normal to want to make sure a guy isn't married if you might be wanting to go out or flirt with them. And with the internet and even before, plenty of married guys act like they're not and try to date coworkers and everybody else.
Author Jose1 Posted May 15, 2016 Author Posted May 15, 2016 (edited) one of the other questions was if I wanted to have kids. I ask her questions she answered had a conversion for about 15 min. I think she knows I like her and is waiting for me to ask. The thing I'm so hesitant on is I never ask anyone on a date and also I can't read her? Edited May 15, 2016 by Jose1
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Here's your reading lesson Jose1. The lady wants you to ask her out. However, since she's a co-worker proceed at your own peril. Dating somebody you have to see every day who can cause trouble for you professionally when you break up is a bad idea. 3
preraph Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Yes, what DOnnivain said. She is interested but she is trying to be sure you are worth the risk she knows she'd be taking having an affair at work. So she's asking you the important things to see if it's worth the risk. If you are not too afraid of losing your job or things going south and then having to see her every day at work when you'd rather not, which is how it usually goes, ask her some questions about herself to show you're interested in something besides does she look cute. See if she's really someone you might be serious about. If you aren't looking for anything serious, then we already know she is, so just don't do it. If you are looking for a serious relationship and are willing to risk your job, then ask her (not in writing or by text -- don't leave a trail in case it all backfires) if she would like to go out and talk and discuss whether it's a good idea for you to keep dating since you work together. Good luck.
elaine567 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Before you ask her out on a date ask her if she is seeing anyone, because if she is attached she will most likely say no to the date with you, causing embarrassment all around.
Author Jose1 Posted May 16, 2016 Author Posted May 16, 2016 wouldn't she just say she was dating someone to save me from embarrassing her and myself? I'm sure she knows I like her. Women are so hard to figure out? I was asking questions too but when she was asking me those questions. I missed my chance to find out if she's dating someone because I was so interested in what she had say. I do know she lives with her parents. I also live with my parents. Thanks for helping me its putting my mind at ease talking about this.
d0nnivain Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 You haven't missed your chance. Just ask her about her dating life next time you see her.
preraph Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 wouldn't she just say she was dating someone to save me from embarrassing her and myself? I'm sure she knows I like her. Women are so hard to figure out? I was asking questions too but when she was asking me those questions. I missed my chance to find out if she's dating someone because I was so interested in what she had say. I do know she lives with her parents. I also live with my parents. Thanks for helping me its putting my mind at ease talking about this. They're only hard to figure out if you won't ask them whatever you're wondering and stop being afraid to talk to them. If you're not comfortable asking her out right now, ask a couple of people from work to happy hour, including her.
Author Jose1 Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 I just realized this she ask me if I was going to take off Saturday or use my time I told her I couldn't I thought it was unexpected her asking this?? Well I'm done now thx for the advice everyone. "overthinking ruins you. ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything much worse than it actually is"
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