Boyfriend lying about talking to other girls and hiding it, what do i do?

[jessgirl23]

I have been together with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We just recently moved in together and are both sharing rent for a condo.

His phone has stopped working, so he's been using mine for calls to friends and work.

Lately, he went through my messages on my facebook and got upset about a friendly message to some guy before we were dating since he thought we were at the time. He then calmed down after I proved to him that we weren't then.

 

I then brought up the fact that I only ever accuse someone of cheating when I actually have proof that he is. I've had a couple times where I had proof that something was fishy, but he always denied it and made me look like I was overreacting.

I brought up that once I looked over his shoulder to find a message of some girl named "Samantha" on his phone. I then didn't think anything of it, and only talked about it on the phone later that night when we were apart. Only for him to say that there was no Samantha on his phone and that it was a message from his friend Samer. He never had mentioned a girl Samantha that he dated before me then, but he said that he dated one now when I brought it up a year later. This then brought me to think why he lied about it? This lying has made me have trust issues and reacting in a way that I shouldn't be (going on his instagram)

 

He also lied about knowing his ex's cousin which happened to like a picture of me and him on instagram without following each other. I then happened to notice that he had her on snapchat.... as well as had no messages on instagram (he deleted them) and has his instagram now so no one could find him on it that had his number. He also had new contacts on his phone of girls to add on snapchat...

 

I'm at the point where I don't want to confess to him what I know, because he's just going to say it's not true like he always does, and says i'm over thinking like i always do. But i know now that I'm not.... I just always give him the benefit of the doubt.

I know I deserve better but I have no clue what to do since we just recently moved in together.

I also have no actual evidence since he must delete the messages since I have already busted him for noticing that message.

HELP!

Edited May 13, 2016 by jessgirl23

[d0nnivain]

If he's lying to you, what else is there? Confront or don't but you are your own worst enemy if you allow yourself to be lied to.

 

Can you get out of the lease? That is actually the bigger concern.

[jessgirl23]

I'm on a year lease which is the difficult part....

But it is a new condo being built so it should be easy to get someone to sublet... I hope.

 

If he's lying to you, what else is there? Confront or don't but you are your own worst enemy if you allow yourself to be lied to.

 

Can you get out of the lease? That is actually the bigger concern.

[d0nnivain]

Can you just kick him out, pay it yourself until you get a friend to move in or a sublet?

[preraph]

Yeah, you need to just find a way out of the lease. Meanwhile, if you're stuck there, tell him you're going to start dating and it's over.

[sandylee1]

If he's being dodgy by telling lies then you really don't need to invest any more time with him. You can walk away from a BF easily with a limited explanation of "I don't trust you, I've caught you out in lies and I have no desire to waste my time with you"

 

Life's too short for such nonsense and if a guy is lying about messaging other girls. ... then let him be history.

 

Just find a tenant for the apartment.