FeelingAgain Posted May 13, 2016 Posted May 13, 2016 Hello Everybody A couple years ago, I experienced a pretty lousy breakup. Just recently my new Ex and I cut ties (it's just been a couple of days). For my old breakup, I utilized NC to the best of my ability and successfully got over my Ex in several months. It's been a couple years since then and now I feel absolute indifference towards them. I am confident I will love someone else just as much some day. My most recent Ex and I were together for about 1.5 yrs. She was a great girl and used to shower me with love. I am sad that we had the irreconcilable differences that we did. In a couple of weeks she is moving far away for about 3 months until she returns to my area. The first day of the breakup I wasnt phased by it, but I knew it just hadn't hit me yet. Now I am feeling my heart starting to ache. I am wondering this; should I give myself a day or two to absolutely wallow in it? It is right to read old letters, look at old pictures, read old texts and just totally let those gut-wrenching feelings hit me? I feel that it is better to face my sadness head on now, so that it doesn't rear itself in a few weeks when I realize I was suppressing/not allowing my emotions to come out.
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2016 Posted May 13, 2016 Everybody grieves differently There is no right or wrong. If you want to take a short time to wallow, do it. It becomes a problem if it goes on & on and you stop functioning (going to work / school or not getting out of bed) Bit honestly nobody will judge you if you spend one weekend in bed reading old love letters, listening to sappy music & crying. That does have to end at some point though. 1
ChocolateRain Posted May 13, 2016 Posted May 13, 2016 its completely normal to go through all these emotions and looking at pics etc etc healing takes time ... dont stay alone too much it helps and/or call friends and talk about it ... as the good ol' saying goes ...time heals
Author FeelingAgain Posted May 14, 2016 Author Posted May 14, 2016 Thanks guys. I think I'm not doing myself any favors in the long run by rejecting my emotions now. It's going to be a long, sad weekend, but it's for the better. 1
Steven1 Posted May 14, 2016 Posted May 14, 2016 Always give yourself a few days to do what YOU need to do in order to help get over it/move on. Not everyone cries or has any emotions on it, but everyone has something they do to forget about it and move on. I won't lie, I cried my eyes out the day of the break up, the day after, and then randomly a few times after that for a week or so. Then it turned into depression for a while, I wouldn't go out, I just settled into a routine of wake up, go to work, go to the gym, come home, sleep, repeat. That lasted a while and still does now but I go out with friends etc now lol. Depression then went to resentment, which ultimately now I think I'm at the forgiving phase. If I can't forgive and forget then I'm only going to hold myself back. That's the best advice.
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