aperry1 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 How devastating!!! My boyfriend broke up with me on my birthday-said we argue too much. Someone had asked him out and he thought he would go. He thought that I should also see other people, explore our options, and see if we even miss each other (nice way of saying that he already has other interests if you ask me). I completely made a fool of myself the first week by begging and pleading with him to give us another chance. He just kept saying he didn't know what he wanted to do, other than he wanted the chance to miss me and get over some anger he had built up. Now that I guess I have given up any hope of a reconciliation, I feel awful. I am so depressed that it is affecting my work, my family, my own health. I don't know where to go from here or how to get over this man. I feel lost without him. I know in the back of my mind I keep hanging on to the hope that we will get back together someday. I know that is the wrong thing to be thinking since I am only fooling and hurting myself. Can someone help me? Please?
BLF04 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 leave him alone, i mean NC to very LC. his feelings will return, he already plans on it.
Fallen_Angel Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 On your birthday?!?! ::Hugs:: That's awful. I'm so sorry. I've read that at the outset of the breakup, you naturally hang on to hope in order to cushion the blow. They've apparently got the science to prove it! There's nothing wrong with hope at first - the problem comes in when you hang on too long and/or you make your hope the focal point of your life. Right now you have to concentrate on the little things. Don't punish yourself for being emotional. If you don't let these feelings out, you'll regret it later. Keep yourself as busy as possible. I know it's hard to think about work...or to even look forward to work!! ...but trust me, work can be a godsend. Anything that gets your mind off the pain, in fact, is something you need in spades. Go for a run. Read a few books. Watch too much TV. Sit around with friends and eat ice cream. Sometimes coming to these boards makes me miss my ex even more, for some reason, but overall it is very comforting to know that a lot of people are experiencing the same feelings as I am. Obviously it would be nice if we could all meet here under different circumstances, but by sharing our stories and insights we get to vent (this is crucial!) and commiserate. Keep your head up. The first few days/weeks are the absolute worst, but once you get through this you'll be able to handle anything.
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