joemarriage Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I'm sure this has been asked. But seriously. How many people here have actually stayed friends with an ex after the breakup? I wanna hear your stories. Could help a lot of us in these hard times. My ex and I were friends for 20 years. We went different ways for many years. After we both got divorced we actually ran into each other and started dated got serious and it lasted 6 years. Broke up around a month ago. We still talk everyday and text through out the day about the stupid stuff going on in our lives. Well that's my story about it. Let's hear yours, good and bad.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 It's been a whole month. Gee whiz. Wait until one of you gets new SO. That new SO will demand that this friendship being jettisoned immediately. I am cordial to all of my EXs. Due to work commitments which can't be avoided I see 1 EX about 2-3 times per year & the other about once per month We're friendly -- hello how are you? how's the family? But that is about it. 1
Zahara Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I think you're trying to get someone to justify your need to stay in contact with your ex. I read your last thread. There is no way you can be friends when still harboring some hope of reconciliation/emotionally attached to an ex. The best thing you can do for yourself is cold turkey NC and push forward from this. Especially when you have someone telling that there is hope of getting back together again. 5
frigginlost Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I'm sure this has been asked. But seriously. How many people here have actually stayed friends with an ex after the breakup? I wanna hear your stories. Could help a lot of us in these hard times. My ex and I were friends for 20 years. We went different ways for many years. After we both got divorced we actually ran into each other and started dated got serious and it lasted 6 years. Broke up around a month ago. We still talk everyday and text through out the day about the stupid stuff going on in our lives. Well that's my story about it. Let's hear yours, good and bad. Every Girlfriend before my marriage -- Relationship ended, never heard from them again. Ex wife -- Was with her for 2 years as a friend, married to her for close to 20. Took two years after the divorce for us to speak at any length. Now five years later, she is one of my dearest friends. First ex girlfriend after my marriage -- Borderline Personality Disorder sufferer. She hates my guts and is currently sleeping with anything that walks upright. Have no desire at all to be friends with her. Last ex girlfriend -- Currently NC. Plan to be until the fog lifts...
Zahara Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I think you're trying to get someone to justify your need to stay in contact with your ex. I read your last thread. There is no way you can be friends when still harboring some hope of reconciliation/emotionally attached to an ex. The best thing you can do for yourself is cold turkey NC and push forward from this. Especially when you have someone telling that there is hope of getting back together again. Edited to add: No hope of getting back together again.
ChocolateRain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 My X was the love of my life , it was me ending the Relationship . it was bittersweet ... he contacted me a lot and we were like friends then again we are not ... 4 years past now and he married but unhappy ...calls and cries he misses me still and fights with him and his wife broke out because of me . i dont want this woman hurting so with heavy heart i told him to stop texting and calling and to try and move on ... i blocked him ... but i will always love and miss him ... i dont think its good to be friends with an EX ...
ExpatInItaly Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I have had some longer-term relationships, including two in which I lived with my then-boyfriends, but I am not friends with any of them. We are not in contact and not "friends" on any social media. I would be cordial if I happened to run into them, but that would be the extent of it. We generally remained friendly following the break-ups, but over time drifted apart and heard from each other less and less. This of course was especially true after one or both of us entered new relationships. I wish them well but those chapters are closed. 1
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