Kmri365 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 So I'll give the details about us before the story of him possibly trying to get my attention. Dated for almost 3 years. Nasty break up. Technically I initiated break up. Of course tried to contact him for sometime after to peacefully decide if it really is "goodbye" or we just need space. No answer. Break up happened March 18 and I've been NC for almost 3 weeks now. Now the possible attention grabbing sorry it's kind of long. My dad saw him at his work this past Sunday. My dad said he seemed relieved that my dad was pleasant. He asked how we're all doing and my dad said when he asked how he was doing "*shoulder shrug* eh I'm good." Knowing my ex I'm sure he was surprised I didn't try to get in touch with him because he knows the news would get back to me. I know this isn't attention grabbing but just the tip of the iceberg. So Tuesday comes along and his friend posts a video of a "sweet" shot my ex made playing basketball. I quoted "sweet" because it was not a sweet shot it was a basic shot lol. I know they do this often in the summer, but they usually actually post shots. A few hours later, his friend posts another video of the "awesome" fire they started for a pit. Again, it's just a fire lol I could start a fire. A few hours after this, his friend comments on the basketball video "the next steps curry" *edits* "the next steph curry shout out *ex boyfriends name" My ex has me blocked on FB but he's still friend with my BFF and it's odd he didn't post any video. Also, another friend of his who is never on FB shared the basketball video lastnight. I actually saw my ex yesterday I drove by him glanced at him and looked away. He "broke his neck" to see me and again knowing him I'm sure he was surprised I didn't contact him. Is the attention grabbing thing in my head? I do still hope he contacts me and some point and I see not falling for the bait as my best tactic.
darkbloom Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Why did you bother commenting on the video? It just stirs the pot. You should probably unfriend his friend to stop yourself from engaging. Are you hoping your ex sees the comment posted on his video? NC would extend to commenting or liking anything involving your ex on social media.
Author Kmri365 Posted May 12, 2016 Author Posted May 12, 2016 Why did you bother commenting on the video? It just stirs the pot. You should probably unfriend his friend to stop yourself from engaging. Are you hoping your ex sees the comment posted on his video? NC would extend to commenting or liking anything involving your ex on social media. There is literally nothing in my post that says I commented on it..
Author Kmri365 Posted May 12, 2016 Author Posted May 12, 2016 Aww ok maybe confused because "sweet" shot? No no I meant the quotation of "sweet" shot for the viewers of this post I didn't comment that on the video sorry for the confusion
LD1990 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 None of that is bait. Basketball shots and a fire pit have nothing to do with you. He had a brief conversation with your father because they ran into each other and he was probably just surprised to see you driving, hence him turning to see if it was really you. You're wasting your time stalking his friend's social media and over analyzing trivial actions. 1
Author Kmri365 Posted May 12, 2016 Author Posted May 12, 2016 None of that is bait. Basketball shots and a fire pit have nothing to do with you. He had a brief conversation with your father because they ran into each other and he was probably just surprised to see you driving, hence him turning to see if it was really you. You're wasting your time stalking his friend's social media and over analyzing trivial actions. Not particularly staking if the video keeps popping up on my newsfeed but ok
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Nothing about any of that indicates your EX cares one whit about you. He's living his life. You are irrelevant to him except in your own mind. This is you obsessing about him not the other way around. If you don't want to see his stuff, block him. Then it won't matter who posts it -- him or one of you other mutual friends. You won't see it. 2
LD1990 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Not particularly staking if the video keeps popping up on my newsfeed but ok Which would be easily avoided if you didn't have his friends on your social media. Regardless, it's not hard to ignore a video on your news feed. You, on the other hand, watched two videos with your ex in them and also apparently found out through your "BFF" that your ex, who blocked you, hasn't posted any videos. So yeah, a bit stalkerish.
lana-banana Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 (edited) I read this post five times and for the life of me I have no idea how this is supposed to be getting your attention. If you have to dig that far to find some kind of signal, you can safely assume there isn't one. It sounds like you're obsessing over his social media to an unhealthy degree. Block him for your own good so your imagination won't run wild like this. Edited May 12, 2016 by lana-banana 4
Robert Posted May 13, 2016 Posted May 13, 2016 Note from moderation: It appears there were some new posts from a new member that was disrupting this thread. That poster has been banned and the resulting responses have been deleted. Please carry on. Thanks! ~6
Zahara Posted May 13, 2016 Posted May 13, 2016 I read your post 3 times. I didn't see it. I think it's all in your head. Best to block his BFF on your FB.
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