Eighty_nine Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I was going to respond one way, and then I realized... Is this team in the playoffs? Pretty sure they are. I'm not a huge hockey fan but I am a big football and college basketball fan, and we pretty much watch all year just FOR these playoff games. My point- they're huge games. He's still acting like an idiot, drunk texting you from the other room and all. But at least he's not doing this over a regular hockey game. The snorting addedall, Etc raises some red flags. Not even defending him, just pointing out its a big game. But it's your birthday, so catching the end of the game should be enough.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I'm a woman. In a perfect world he should get over it & be there for your birthday. You are a living breathing person & they are a sports team. But here's the thing. You will have another birthday. It's highly unlikely the Blues will make it this far again. I can't imagine a bar / restaurant in your area that won't have the game on. So having dinner out but making sure he can see the TV should have been an OK compromise. Note: I am not saying go to a sports bar. That said his behavior -- throwing a tantrum, cursing at you, texting you from the next room -- that is completely unacceptable. I would be done with him over that. The level of vitriol he's spewing is ridiculous. Bye Bye. 1
katiegrl Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 (edited) Can't he just tape the game and watch later or next day? Geez. OP, it is not even his obsession with sports, hockey or this team that is troubling. I can actually understand that... plus it's the playoffs, I get it. It's his verbal abuse, his overall reaction in general. The verbal abuse alone should be an automatic dealbreaker.... it would be for me! Plus his drinking... wow. Next. I hope you will seriously consider ending this. A year isn't that long. Take care of you! You deserve better than this crap. Edited May 12, 2016 by katiegrl
Lansing Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Guy does sound like a douche but more because of the snorting ADHD medication thing vs this particular thing. He is already willing to sell his tickets to a playoff game to be there on your birthday so I think you should have made the dinner earlier or should have gone somewhere where you could all watch. Or he could have taken you to the game and you do something for your birthday another day. I think you guys are both at fault to be honest in terms of having a give/take relationship.
Author SparklingandBroken Posted May 12, 2016 Author Posted May 12, 2016 Guy does sound like a douche but more because of the snorting ADHD medication thing vs this particular thing. He is already willing to sell his tickets to a playoff game to be there on your birthday so I think you should have made the dinner earlier or should have gone somewhere where you could all watch. Or he could have taken you to the game and you do something for your birthday another day. I think you guys are both at fault to be honest in terms of having a give/take relationship. Like I mentioned previously, of course I would have scheduled an earlier dinner. At this point he couldn't even tell me what time the game was. It wasn't a discussion, it was an ultimatum.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Like I mentioned previously, of course I would have scheduled an earlier dinner. At this point he couldn't even tell me what time the game was. It wasn't a discussion, it was an ultimatum. Especially because you were initially willing to compromise, his nastiness is even more intolerable. If the game was so bloody important to him he should have had the time at his fingertips.
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