airbus Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Hi, Well, me and my g/f have been ironing out the problems we've had recently, however we've come to a new problem, which is really no-ones fault. This evening she told me her computer isnt working properly. Whenever she tries to get online she gets a 'cannot find server' page come up in IE. Her MSN messenger won't work because the computer thinks its offline. Shes tried various things, including taking the broadband lead out and plugging it back in again...etc and none of it seems to have worked (although shes still currently trying things as I type this) Her last resort would be to reinstall windows. However, if this doesnt work, how can we maintain communication? She lives in Liverpool and I live in Cornwall. I love her to bits and I really want this to work out even if her PC stops working. She said she won't break up with me, but i'm really cautious because she doesnt have credit for the next 2 weeks as she wont get paid until then, and i'm worried that if her PC don't work we will lack contact. I try to call her as much as possible but the phone bill is always a concern. Is there any ideas how we can maintain contact if her PC does stop working for good? I really hope you guys can help me as this has got me feeling so down and I don't really want to lose my g/f. :(
balletgirl Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 I would say that old fashioned snail mail... I personally write cards to my boyfriend and he writes me back.... That is another form of communication, that they can see and hold... Spraying some cologne/ perfume in there also reminds them of you.. (very old fashioned i know, but to me it is romantic) Just because her computer isnt working, doesnt mean that it is over.... Calling once a day and writing once a week will still keep you in her thoughts, and waiting with abated breath to see you... Good luck!!!!
Author airbus Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Hey Thankyou for your response. I think you're right, writting a letter would be a great way! It's something to lookforward to aswell, when recieving one. What kind of cards do you send eachother? I know, the relationship wouldn't be over from my side, i'm just worried that as time passes she might get bored and end up leaving me. It would destroy me if she did because I do love her to bits and i'm quite attached. Thank you for your help so far.
Rosalind Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 If she's unable to access the internet, all she has to do is call her ISP for help. Is it high-speed?...are the proper lights working on the modem? does she have the software that enables her to revert the hard-drive? There could be dozens of reasons - she just needs to phone and get technical assistance. P.S. has she paid her bill? ...j/k!!!
balletgirl Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Well, I but cards that say "miss you" "thinking of you" "my heart belongs to you"...... things like that... From a womans point of view, i really enjoy getting cards, even if it just says that he misses me alot... And from my boyfriends' point of view, he loves them, and showing them to his coworkers and all that I dont think that she will get bored... I was very scared that my boyfriend would get bored, and then I realized that he said "i love you" first.... and you arent gone forever, and things always work out, just the way they are supposed to...... If you have times to look forward to sometimes it can make the waiting all the better.... I am very glad that i can help you..
Author airbus Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 Rosalind Last night when I spoke to her on the phone her mum was about to reinstall windows. This morning my g/f text me (off of her bro's phone as she has no credit) and told me that the PC still isnt working (she didnt say if her mum did reinstall windows in the end though) but she said she will tell me what they plan to do when I call her this evening. I will put your idea to her though regarding to calling her ISP for assistance. I thought a reinstall of windows would do the trick simply because her PC kept crashing and giving her various errors (she had the PC for over 4yrs and I think that over that time many viruses had downloaded and finally screwed it up) Balletgirl, Thats very very sweet! You and your partner have a really good thing going on regarding to romantic gestgures. I will certainly send her cards and things like that, i'm sure that this will be a good way to compensate for her PC not working. Yeah I know, maybe she won't get bored, but I just worry. We have known eachother for 4 and a half years and I never knew it at the time but she wanted to go out with me 4yrs ago, but never said as I had a g/f at the time, and all the way through the last 4yrs we've had partners when the other hasnt, and so we only got together a few months ago It just seems like now we're finally together, this is another situation that has tried to get in the way. When you talk about looking forward to 'times' Do you mean like the next time I go to visit her? Thats a good idea although I haven't organised a date to visit her just yet! It's quite hard when it gets to about 7pm because we usually talk online then and it just feels like a part of me is missing now that she isnt on.
Rosalind Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 airbus....my computer is now 4 years old also...and I have always been able to fix any problems (well except the time when I first bought it - and I didn't know at the time how to get rid of a trojan horse, the tech at the retail outlet was able to fix it on the phone). Anyways, I can proudly say that I have become quite computer savvy now. If's it's virus's, trojans, and spyware that crashed her computer, it means she does not have the proper protective software. Looks like it's not an ISP - unable to connect to the internet problem afterall
balletgirl Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Well, honestly, I am just hoping and praying that the cards and emails and webcam work for my boyfriend and I..... But after hearing about you two, i really doubt that anything negative will happen..... Yes, you should try and organize a time to see her... At least talk about it, that way it seems like you have something to look forward to. Is she permanently moved? Or just for the time? See, me personally, I am gone only for the summer... And the thing that kept us going was that we were going on vacation together about a month into the separation. Now that we got back from vacation last week, he in one state, me in another, it is the LONG 9 weeks..... The important thing for me, is to keep busy, or else I constantly worry what he is doing, especially on the weekends since we would always spend them together......Just dont let your imagination get the best of you (except in a good way) hehehe obviously she wanted to be with you....SO, go with that, and hopefully her computer will soon be fixed... Just send the cards, and you will see her before you know it!
Rosalind Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Oh oh oh....and Norton/Go-Back/revert hardive software, is the best ever! It brought everything back to normal - when a few things on the PC started acting unusual.
Author airbus Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 Rosalind, Her computer has never had a fresh install of windows on it since she first got it, so I assume that over time her PC has accumlated alot of stuff. It was only a few days ago she was going through her files and found a photograph of her that she had taken when she was 15, which she actually sent to me 4yrs ago when we first met. So I think that as she didn't have any protection on the PC certain things like trojans...etc may have downloaded. Surely a simple reinstall of windows will then fix this won't it? I've been attacked by spyware and viruses in the past and reinstalling windows fixed it for me. I gave her Ad-aware a while back, which got rid of a few things. Her mum used AVG or something like that yesterday which picked up a virus or two. My g/f isnt very knowledgable with computers so I usually try to talk her through what to do. Balletgirl, Your methods will work perfectly, trust me! Me and my g/f live away from eachother permanently! She lives up in Liverpool with her family and I live down in Cornwall with my family (although I am actually originally from London) We met online 4 and a half years ago and always got on great. At the time I was with someone else though, and so Laura never said she felt anything. When my g/f left me, Laura already was with someone else, who she ended up being with for 2yrs (we didnt have as much contact then as she went to live with him for quite a while) They broke up in June last year, shortly after her father died (which was the day after my birthday) She went out with a few guys after that, and we continued to talk, and one day she just confessed and said that she had always wanted to be with me. She spoke of one evening when I was talking about the g/f I was with, I had been upset about her and Laura said that she felt sad because she wanted to treat me better and couldn't sleep because she felt bad for me. We became friends when I was only 17 and flying aeroplanes was still a dream, and she was only 15 and at school, but im 21 now, and a trainee pilot, and she is 19 and studying a computer course at college, which she hopes will help her to become a receptionist. I always did like her and I thought that she would make a great g/f, so I am pleased that we now have our chance together. We have been happy together. Long distance does have its problems, but we do try and reassure eachother as much as possible. I will talk to her about me visiting her, infact I mentioned it in the letter I wrote last night! She should be getting that tomorrow. Yeah I know what you mean about the imagination. I started counselling sessions last week for insecurity. One of my main aspects to focus on is 'unrealistic thoughts' I often have these when my g/f is out clubbing on the weekend, and she has the same thoughts when i'm online talking. I think we're as bad as eachother in the insecurity aspect, as we have both been hurt so many times. Although my added insecurity is that my grandad (who was my father figure) died a month before my 12th birthday, i've never got over it and i've always looked for the closeness I had with him in someone else and i'm hoping thats with my g/f Laura. I think that the death of her father has also made her feel insecure too. I will send her cards and other sweet things, I know that she will love that.
balletgirl Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 It sounds like you two will be fine.... I have the same kind of insecurity issues.. My b/f has never given me a solid reason not to trust him, so I am trying to get over this trust issue that I have.. Especially with being away, I think that it is extra important to display my trust and care towards him..I dont want to give him any reason to turn towards one of his girl friends for something that i am not giving him, ya know?! These LDR are hard... BUt i think that if both parties want the same thing, then it is easier on both..... (I really should start listening to my own advice, sheesh!!!)
Author airbus Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 Hey, Thats something I worry about too! I worry that my g/f will go out to the clubs on the weekend and end up with someone because i'm not there and stuff like that. I guess it's unrealistic thoughts but it makes me feel sad because I really don't want to lose her at all. I just feel abit lonely at times. Not because she lives a long distance away, simply because she is usually online and due to her PC not working she isn't. Although I must addmit, each night I go to bed, I wish that I could cuddle up to her and fall to sleep. I miss her so much.
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