gimlynick Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Hey guys and girls, As some know, I'm struggling heavy with my first break up, dough I feel like going on the 'date market' asap is going te help me a lot. We are broken up for 2 months now, and 2 weeks ago I slept with a girl. Now, I asked her to come eat a barbecue, with the very obvious meaning to get sex afterwards. I just want her for sex, but she told me that she falls quickly for someone. I said that if she is falling for me that it's better that she backs off, because I have 0 interest in something emotionally with her. So it is kinda up to her if she will come to my place or not. What do you guys think? Should I just cancel the bbq? I don't want to break her. She has allready told me that she is used to be the 'rebound girl', and yes, I guess that is exactly what she is right now. But is she agrees, with knowing that I don't want her, everything is fine right?
stillafool Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Cancel. She will get serious, probably already is, and you will break her heart. 4
GemmaUK Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Cancel. Find someone else for some fun who is independent and doesn't get attached. 1
Buddhist Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Now, I asked her to come eat a barbecue, with the very obvious meaning to get sex afterwards. I just want her for sex, but she told me that she falls quickly for someone. But is she agrees, with knowing that I don't want her, everything is fine right? Well if it's fine then I think you should tell her outright that you are just using her for sex instead of implying it, leaving it up to her imagination to fill in the blanks. If you want to absolve yourself of all responsibility then you need to make it clear with her. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 At least you made it clear, but depending on them to make the decision to stay or not is never a good idea. It's better to just cut them loose to avoid any drama. You will feel worse trying to shake them off your leg later or they might do things like c&^% block you/ get in the way.
bathtub-row Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 It sounds like she victimizes herself since she says she's always the rebound girl. If she doesn't like it, then she needs to stop making dumb decisions. In this case, I'd help her out by cancelling the bbq. No need to help someone be their own victim. You did fine by being upfront but, based on what she said, she's not going to make a smart choice in this case.
StormyEyes Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Cancel, sometimes you have to be the grown up when someone else can't. Don't be that guy, be one of the good ones.
Author gimlynick Posted May 11, 2016 Author Posted May 11, 2016 Thanks girls, for the advice. I will cancel, for her and also for myself. I'd find myself a massive ******* if I did this to her. 1
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