Charmed22 Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 I had a boyfriend for 5 years who left me rather coldly about 9 months ago. I haven't heard a thing from him since. Since then I have for the most part improved on myself. I go out more, I have lost a noticeable amount of weight etc. Me and my ex run in the same circle of friends since we all know eachother from high school. None of my close friends from the circle has seen him. There has been plenty of parties and get togethers that his close friends from the circle attended but not him. I just think its odd cause I figured we would eventually run into each other at a get together but that hasn't occurred yet. There was one instance where we were all at a state fair and some friends told me he was there which got me extremely nervous. I ended up not running into him that night cause it was so crowded but It did get me thinking that It has been 9 months and I have yet to run into him once. I didn't put any thought into it until that night when I realized I haven't seen him. Is it normal to not see an ex after a breakup?
central Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 My first serious high school girlfriend from 40 years ago showed up at my father's funeral a few weeks ago. That was quite a pleasant surprise, as we'd had no contact in all that time. I should have married her rather than the one (now another ex) that I did marry several years later - but, at the time I wasn't ready to settle down.
losangelena Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 I think it's normal. I mean, I guess it really depends on the circumstances, right? My ex and I broke up eight months ago and I have not heard a peep from him or seen him. But we live on opposite sides of the city and don't share a social group, so it would be quite remarkable if we just ran into each other. If we did, I'm sure I'd feel pretty uncomfortable, though.
Steven1 Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 I was with my now ex for 7 years, been broke up about 3 month now..give or take. Haven't seen her since but she goes to University about 2 hours away from me so it's highly unlikely I will bump into her. Although sadly where she does go, it's a lovely town and a good night out...I've avoided it religiously ever since then, because I know I'll bump into her and her now new boyfriend as soon as I set foot there! lol. But no, it's definitely not uncommon to not see your ex again. Most people in a relationship with someone who live very local to one another, it will undoubtedly happen, as well as working relationships etc. But that's unavoidable for the most part.
jonesey0 Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 My exes parents house and my parents house are 500m apart, in a very small town. I go there almost every weekend and so does she. We were together 14 years, i had dinner at her parents house every saturday. Broke up one year ago, never run into her or her family.
sorano Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 no and I hope to keep it that way. If I see her I think ill gag and just be disgusted by her presence. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Normal is a loaded word. He may be giving you a wide berth & avoiding places you are likely to be. One of my EXs works at the university where I went to grad school. Because of that I avoid going back to my alma mater.
triple-s Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 i have . it hurts . i saw her yesterday after 5 months .. just keep walking . ...
joemarriage Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 6yeara together and broken up a month. We live in a small beach town. I'm 9 years older and different crowds. Yes I have already seen her. She's even shown up to my house. Of course I didn't kick her out, she even came to my sons bday party with her son. But we've known each other 20+ years and I've been part of her sons life since he was 3.
ALL OR NOTHING Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I had a boyfriend for 5 years who left me rather coldly about 9 months ago. I haven't heard a thing from him since. Since then I have for the most part improved on myself. I go out more, I have lost a noticeable amount of weight etc. Me and my ex run in the same circle of friends since we all know eachother from high school. None of my close friends from the circle has seen him. There has been plenty of parties and get togethers that his close friends from the circle attended but not him. I just think its odd cause I figured we would eventually run into each other at a get together but that hasn't occurred yet. There was one instance where we were all at a state fair and some friends told me he was there which got me extremely nervous. I ended up not running into him that night cause it was so crowded but It did get me thinking that It has been 9 months and I have yet to run into him once. I didn't put any thought into it until that night when I realized I haven't seen him. Is it normal to not see an ex after a breakup? Why not just ring him and tell him you still love him an were wondering if he wants to get married sometime , you only live once what's the worst that can happen? He could say no but at least you had the balls to go for what you wanted. Or he could say yeh that's sounds great and then you live happily ever after!
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