mishyman Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Like she got a new job and I want to apply for the same job as her i told her that i apply for the same job she is like why you got to follow me for? like why she got to put me down like this for? Like what if i got the same job before her and she apply for the same job she wouldn't be saying that to me etc so why she got to act like this around me?
privategal Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Not sure of the history of your friendship, how long have you been friends? Is is a healthy positive friendship other than this or have you dated or expressed romantic interest? She might have been trying to make a new start and move on, she might see you as competition like if you apply you might get the job over her...many facters. You might speak to her about this in person in a nice non accusatory tone and let her know her statement really hurt your feelings and you wanted to understand where she was coming from. I am really independent and like to do my own thing. When I want to get serious about working out for instance and go for a walk or run, then my husband suddenly wants to do the same, I think...Id be so impressed if he had taken that initiative on his own...now I feel he is just doing what I do without any initiating of his own, its something like that for me....just an example, as my husband is awesome. So simply put, you didn't start to look for jobs and think of making a new start on your own, now suddenly your doing it because she is and you are going after the same job, and maybe that annoys her is all. Maybe she wanted a new venture where you could admire her and be proud of her for making a big step on her own but instead you said I'm going to do that too. I don't think you did anything wrong, I'm just trying to guess what she MIGHT be thinking. She might have just been being rude. You have to look at the big picture of what kind of friend she is.
preraph Posted May 11, 2016 Posted May 11, 2016 Well, obviously, whoever she is doesn't want to work with you and thinks you're following her around, and I have a feeling she's right. Go apply somewhere else.
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