ConfusedHumanBeing Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Maybe ...maybe not !!!!! lol Thanks for the advice. I haven't signed on in quite a bit here...but I did because I saw these post. I wanted to tell you like mostly eveyone on here that writing a letter is easily the worst decision you can make at this juncture. We all have those hopes of them reading it and everything becomes clear and they will realise their "mistake". Go read around these boards. Like REALLY read these boards that have to do with that. 95 percent of those people will say it was the worst decision they made...and the other 5 percent are trying to lie to themselves that it went well. Seriously....worst idea ever. 1
elaine567 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I need to let it go....I feel like he is in pain I know it sounds crazy but I can feel it. HE dumped you, he wanted to be friends as that is the usual dumper talk and is probably indicative of the fact he was probably already over you. YOU are projecting YOUR pain onto him. HE may be glad and relieved he ended it, he may be not be giving you a second thought, he may have already moved onto to someone else. YOU need to grieve, heal and move on too, the NC rules will help you. Writing the letter is NOT going to help get him back and it will put you back in the healing process by reliving the relationship. You send it, but you could spend hours, days, weeks, waiting for the reply, which is very unhealthy for you. He may not ever reply or just make trite soothing noises to appease you. OR have you considered the reply may be nasty and angry, tearing you apart, throwing his new "better" gf in your face? Could you deal with that? He may not read it, he may even laugh at it, he may show it to his friends, he may put it on FB. DO NOT send it.
BC1980 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 I'm thinking he won't even respond to the letter, which will just create more questions and more reasons to keep revisiting this.
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