noname Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 here we go... forgive me for not posting on the cheating/infidelity page, but since this is not a personal issue or an actual incident, i thought it might be a little inappropriate. i have a question or three to ask of those who are experienced with the topic. has anyone had a successful relationship that was born of infidelity? and does your origin change the dynamics of your relationship? let me add that i have never cheated on or with somebody because that is not my steelo. and i don't claim to be a better person than anybody. the reason why i ask is out of curiosity. i have spent my years listening to people who have cheated either on or with somebody. i have read many posts on this site. and it seems that in people's quest for love, often times they try to find it in the arms of someone who "belongs" to someone else. they claim that they "fall madly in love" with the person, and in many cases wait (most times in vain) for the person to leave or divorce the other person. it just seems a little weird to me. i can understand a person developing feelings for someone, but i don't understand how they find love in a relationship that is not based on trust. if the person (on both sides) was dishonest enough to do it with you, would you not believe that they would be able to do it behind your back as well? commentary before the replies ----i don't know. i just couldn't see myself trying to build a relationship with someone on a foundation of dishonesty. it would seriously impact if not destroy my chances of loving that person. or myself for that matter... disclaimer---- this is not a judgement on anybody and the last thing i want this thread to become a shooting gallery. i am just curious what or how people think...
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 This is what I told my ex's new (fugly) girlfriend after I found out that he was pursuing her while still in a relationship with me. (And yes, she did know about me) I told her, "He traded a filet mignon for a greasy burger. If he could cheat on me, you'd better believe he'll cheat on your ugly, fat a$$."
aviva_dawn Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 My bf and I began our relationship when I was dating someone else. (Not in my eyes, but in the eyes of my ex who introduced us in the first place.) My ex was Homosexual and wanted to use me as a smokescreen so everyone else still believed that he was straight. I found out about my ex-bf's sexual orientation and said that while I would be delighted to remain friends with him , I did not want to remain romatically involved with him. So, I broke it off. My ex didn't accept "it's over" and ran around telling everyone we knew that we were still dating. Then I met my current bf and we hit it off. So, if you ask my Ex if I cheated on him, he would say YES. Since I ended the rekationship and he wouldn't accept it, I do not consider myself a cheater. Me and my bf have been together since August 2003. And our relationship has been great since then!
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