outdated Posted June 23, 2005 Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 If I get asked out on a date, you'd better believe I'm gonna go! Like another poster said, go for the $150 dinner. This, in a nutshell, and singlehandedly, is why men should pick more carefully who they ask out. Buy your own dinner.
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 23, 2005 Author Posted June 23, 2005 So if YOU asked a woman if you could take her out for dinner, and she accepts, you would half expect HER to pay or else call her a golddigger? WTF is that? That's the impression I'm getting from your rude comments (both of you). You'll have to be careful who YOU ask out because you'd be lucky to find someone half as decent as me to give you the time of day with that 'tude. He asked me out because he wanted to go out with a good-looking woman and have a good time. He didn't ask for a blow job in return for buying dinner. He didn't ask for anything in return. I'm not a gold digger, and why should I not be asked to go out on a date just because I expect the guy who asked to pay for it? If I asked a guy out on a date I would pay for him. If it wasn't a date, or if it was a mutually agreed upon "go out for dinner" with a friend, we would split the bill. All I was saying in my original post was that I go on a date because I want to go out and have a good time and enjoy the company I'm with, without the awkwardness of wondering if he's into me, or wondering if he'll ever call, or wondering if he thinks I feel the same as him and end up whining on LS about the whole deal.
outdated Posted June 23, 2005 Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 So if YOU asked a woman if you could take her out for dinner, and she accepts, you would half expect HER to pay or else call her a golddigger? WTF is that? That's the impression I'm getting from your rude comments (both of you). You'll have to be careful who YOU ask out because you'd be lucky to find someone half as decent as me to give you the time of day with that 'tude. I don't ask women out until I know that they're interested in more than my wallet. When men ask women out, they do so to build a relationship that will lead up to sex. Yes, it's that simple. I don't ask women out to $150 dinners in hopes they'll come around. And I find plenty of decent women. And I date many of them, and I pay for our dates. But it's always with the reassurance that it comes out in the wash. Sorry but that's life. If you're comfortable with having men who you don't like take you out to expensive dinners, then that's you, but you're going to be shocked at how quickly they "lose your phone number."
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 23, 2005 Author Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by outdated I don't ask women out until I know that they're interested in more than my wallet. When men ask women out, they do so to build a relationship that will lead up to sex. Yes, it's that simple. I don't ask women out to $150 dinners in hopes they'll come around. And I find plenty of decent women. And I date many of them, and I pay for our dates. But it's always with the reassurance that it comes out in the wash. Sorry but that's life. If you're comfortable with having men who you don't like take you out to expensive dinners, then that's you, but you're going to be shocked at how quickly they "lose your phone number." How do you determine what they're interested in if you don't go out with them first? You think the only reason he asked me out was to have sex? So if you thought a woman was interested in having sex with you, you'd have no problem taking her out to a nice restaurant for dinner? What do you mean by "the reassurance that it comes out in the wash" - I dont know what that means. I didn't say I go out with men I don't like. I meant I don't go out with expectations of building a relationship. If I find out during the date that he has potential, I won't change my behavior either way. I'll still have a good time, be myself, and whatever happens happens. It's alot more comfortable with no expectations or being worried about making a wrong move or saying the wrong thing and wondering if I blew it. You can't blow it if there was nothing to blow (no pun intended). I'm also not saying I go out with everyone who asks me just to get a free meal. I have turned people down for all sorts of reasons. A few being I just don't think I'd have a good time with that person or that I know they want more out of it, or I just plain don't like them.
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