Lily1234 Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 I've dated this guy about 3 weeks, he works over 70 hours per week, and his busy season gonna last until June. At beginning he always said something like he could be less busier for me, and we texted a lot everyday. But on the second time I slept over at his place, he asked me to come over for shows and wine. Sadly we both worked over time that day (usually I'm that busy). When I arrived at his place was already 11:30 PM, and I was trying to talk with him a while about his day, but he seems tired and wanted to have sex directly. He had a noisy cat which made me didn't fall asleep the whole night. Also he has weird definition about cuddles, he thinks only couple can do cuddle things. So I really feel sad and lonely when I sleep over, we don't have to talk and I don't want to disturb his sleep but can only staring at the celling the whole night. He got up at 5:30 AM the next day and suggested me to stay a little bit longer to sleep. I refused and left with him at the same time, I don't want him to worry that I may look through his personal stuff or something. The next day I asked him out on weekend, he said he already had some arrangement and asked me whether wanna sleep over again. I said I don't wanna go his place at midnight anymore in a kidding tone, and he also replied in a kidding tone agreed with that. I really like him but I don't like the feeling that we only have time for sex. And he stopped to initiate the conversation since then. I know I pushed him away, but does he want sex only or I should understand him more and be more patient? Is there anything I can do?
basil67 Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 It's only three weeks and you've been downgraded to a sex buddy who doesn't even get cuddles. Time to move on. 5
Els Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 It's not his work hours that's genuinely the issue - if he has time for sex he sure as hell has time to cuddle and talk, he just doesn't want to. It's pretty clear he's only interested in sex and isn't interested in a relationship, so you should only hang around if that's what you want as well (and it doesn't sound like you do). 1
Satu Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 He's somewhat interested in the sex, but he's not at all interested in you. Eject. 1
Zippy2000 Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 I dated a head chef who worked 60 hours a week and she still found time to see me. If he was more into you he would make the effort. Hes not afraid to lose you or his hours so its time to lose him! 1
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