truth_seeker Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 If went on a date with a guy who was (I quote) "quite unengaging. Poor conversationalist"... that is not an OK date for me. They are not "nice". They are as boring as hell and dull as f***. That is a BAD date for me. This is interesting as I went on a date and I tried to make conversation with the woman and she couldn't hold one. Yet, word got back to the people who set us up that I was the problem. wtf? I'm not saying you're not telling the truth, but sometimes people make sh-t up to make it look like it's the other person who is the problem and not themselves to save face.
Toodaloo Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 This is interesting as I went on a date and I tried to make conversation with the woman and she couldn't hold one. Yet, word got back to the people who set us up that I was the problem. wtf? I'm not saying you're not telling the truth, but sometimes people make sh-t up to make it look like it's the other person who is the problem and not themselves to save face. It takes two to tango and if the pair of you can't hold a conversation then quite frankly you should NOT be on a date. It really is that simple. If you like Bach and she can only talk about Katie Price its going to get dull fast. Who cares what some random woman says about you? Why on earth DO you care? All you have to say is that you did not get on and couldn't find anything in common or that the pair of you just didn't fancy each other but thanks for the date set up. Learn how to be gracious and accepting. That way you hold yourself in good stead for future introductions. A person that gets all nasty about a friend of a friend is not going to get any more introductions. Done that and been there. One of my worst ever dates was a guy who thought he was a superb conversationalist and all he would go on about was my star sign and how I must be like that... He would ask a question then completely dismiss or insult my answers. He sucked his teeth - a lot. Tutted at everything I said and despite me being local tried to tell me the local history of which I knew far more than he did and I also knew more local people than he did. It was that bad that the old couple on the table next to me tried to help me out and talk to me but he was also rude to them... I ended up just getting up and walking out after an hour of sheer hell. The best bit was when he tried to be all whatever it is men think they should be and asked if I had realised that he was "challenging me". I replied yes and it wasn't getting him very far and was actually closer to being insulting. Being the bozo he was he obviously ignored the bit about how he was being insulting and rude and carried on because he of course thought he was the perfect conversationalist... Just saying... Obviously I am far more honest on here but in real life I was as polite as I could possibly be. Thankfully it was an internet introduction but if it had been through friends I would have been polite and kind about it but still said no.
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