kaycaps Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 (edited) I finally hung out with a guy I had been talking to a couple of times in the past week, and I thought things went well. I have been dealing with an incredible amount of anxiety though, wondering how he feels about me, if he just wants sex, or only sees me as a friend. We were texting a lot in the days leading up to the first hang out, were continuing to text a lot between the first and second hang out, and after we parted ways after the second hang out he sent me a series of texts about how he had a great time once again and that we should do it again soon. That was Saturday night and he's been pretty quiet since then. He did text me a bit today (he initiated) but the conversation didn't go too far. I find myself wanting to try to start another conversation but I don't want to seem clingy. I've had bad luck with past relationships and it has left me unsure of how the "right" way to act is. It's also left me kind of dumb when it comes to decoding guys. I guess I'm just not sure what to do right now. We were hanging out under "romantic" pretenses, the first time we hung out we did cuddle a little before I left, but no sex or kissing. The second time was purely just us talking and joking around and teasing. I feel really juvenile making a board like this but I swear I'm actually a mostly functional adult haha. Edited May 10, 2016 by kaycaps
d0nnivain Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 Do you know what a self fulfilling prophecy is? If you start acting nutty, because you are anxious you will ruin things. Try to relax. Give yourself some affirmations like "I'm calm" "all is well" "things are good"
Author kaycaps Posted May 10, 2016 Author Posted May 10, 2016 Yeah haha very true. I really like this guy and want to continue getting to know him but I overanalyze things so much and get myself really worked up. I will try hard to keep myself calm and go with the flow, as they say. 1
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