Colleen Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 OK, So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a total of 3 months. The first month we met everything was wonderful and picture perfect. He said he loved me and I said I loved him back. About a week after we said I love you to each other, he must have freaked out because he had the "I love you very much but, am not in love with you right now talk." So we decided to not say it until we really ment it. After that conversation, nothing seemed normal. It was odd being near each other, so it was a mutual decision to break up and remain good friends. Well, after we broke up, a few days passed and I noticed that my period was late. It turns out that I was pregnant. I called him up immediately and told him. He dropped what he was doing and came right over and we talked for hours. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do, but he was pushing for abortion because we are too young for children. (He is 20, I am 19). So anyway, I agreed (after 4 weeks of debating) to get an abortion. He didn't go with me because I didn't want him there. So, I actually never went to get one and told him I did because I was just going to wait until it was too long to get one. I ended up telling him a week later that I never got one, and we were right back at the beginning. Anyway, after 9 weeks I finally did get an abortion. During those 9 weeks he and I were extremely close. We spent nearly every waking moment together. He promised he would be here for me and he was. Out of nowhere this past Saturday he had a breakdown. He left my house and never came back because he was just upset and tired from the nine weeks. The next day I went looking for him. I found him and talked to him. He said he was planning on never coming back because he feared I would tell my parents and they would kill him. I said it was understandable. Later that night we talked for a few hours with each other and decided (actually he did the deciding) that we need a break from each other. He say's it's not a good idea to see each other right now because he has to get his life back together. He tells me he thinks we should talk once or twice a week but not see each other for a while and take a break. (We are keeping in contact now, because he promised me he would be there after it all). My question is: What should I do??? I seem to think about him non-stop. I love him to death. I never told him how I feel because I dont' want to scare him. He says he cares a lot about me and it has nothig to do with him. Will he come back? What should I do? Do I call him? Someone please give me advice, I'm very lost and confused!!
Clone Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 yes that is a very comlicated situation. First off i would say aboration isnt the corerct path to take. I should keep my personal belives out of this thread but hell. Taking a babies life isnt very cool. It wouls of been mroe responsible to have the kid and put it up for adoption of something rather then kill it. Second him coming back is a big maybe. He is 20 and the thought of a kid probably scared the hell out of him. He may love he may not. I got told the same thing with my ex. she said i love u and 3 days later she said she didnt anymore. Wtf is taht crap. Just keep holding strong cause he may come back but dont count on it
Author Colleen Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 I know the thought of a kid really did scare him. He actuallly told me that he doesn't plan on sleeping iwth anyone utnil he is ready to have kids. I have been doing good I haven't called him at all today, I am giving him the space he wants. As for love we love each other but, aren't in love .. we haven't had the chance to fall in love iwth the whole situaiton and all..The last 9 weeks thats all we focused on.
clone Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 3 monhts is a good growing period but not along time. I mean it takes along time to truely know someone and have what i call teh undying love for them. Yes sleeping with someone and not taking responsiblty for your actions is the best but this is were u learn. Dont sleep with someone unless u know you are truely ready for what might happen.
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