nikkis Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 We were a both a lil tipsy at a party this weekend. We have a past and the situation kinda faded at the beginning of this previous semester. He would constantly flirt with me but I can be pretty standoffish. He even told my friend that he didn't think I liked him as much as he liked me. Well this past Saturday at the party, I got mad bc he had his arm around one of my friends and I confronted him in front of a group of our friends. We ended up talking and I told him I really liked him and he said he didn't know I felt like that. This was weird because we talked for a little at the beginning of the year, so why wouldn't know that I liked you. But he also said that he liked me too and just didn't know how to approach me because I'm not the typical girl, meaning that I'm not really out there if you know what I mean. He ended up walking me and my friends to our car and that was it for the night. Well, it has been a week and he has yet to text or call. We had finals last week but that's not an excuse in my opinion. I just don't understand why if he said he felt the same way, wth is stopping him? My friend said he might be afraid of commitment but I not asking him for a relationship, if that happens then fine but I'm not pressuring him. Thanks in advance, Nikki
smackie9 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 You really expect a lot don't you? Just because a girl talks to a guy doesn't mean she likes him. You literally have to say it. What the hell is a guy supposed to do when you are as you say "stand offish"? The poor guy had the impression you didn't really give a rat's ass, so he backed off. Now out of the blue you have a jealous fit in front of everyone because all he did was put his arm around someone, and THEN you claim to like him? Guys are not commitment phoebes, they will commit to a girl the do want to be with. I think he might be too shy, give it some more time. What you can do now is show some interest in him and actually put yourself out there. Send him a friendly flirty text. It goes both ways sista. You have to put some effort into it too if you want a guy's attention. He won't approach you if you keep that wall up. 1
Author nikkis Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 I was standoffish because I didn't know if his was just saying he liked me just to get what he wanted. Plus, I would see invite him over and he would "forget" to come over. I don't want to seem too overbearing by texting him and he said he would hit me up and hasn't so I just take that as a sign that I may not be a priority.
preraph Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 He sounds afraid of you and too timid to make a move. Maybe from what went on in the past, but I'm afraid maybe not. Now you've told him, if he still can't work up the confidence to make a move, are you still going to be into him?
Author nikkis Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 I think I will just because I haven't had feelings this strong for anyone before. It's just so weird to me because he is very social, he's kind of a ladies man, and had no problem communicating with other people but he tells me he didn't know how to approach me.
smackie9 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 He's kind of a ladies man? huh he's just messin with ya feeding you those lines. A ladies man never has a problem with barriers. Now it makes sense. He is creating desire by being aloof making you wanting him bad. The arm round someone else was a ploy to see if you would react, and low and behold, you got jealous! He knows he has you hooked. Now he is back to being aloof to make you go crazier for him. He is just so used to women coming easy to him. You won't budge, so now you have become a challenge. TBH don't falling too hard for him.
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