Omaha402 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Well guys-- Dated a girl for two and a half years.. we planned on getting engaged.. then all of a sudden she decided just wasn't into it. I respected her decisions.. and went NC. I made the mistake of breaking NC after a month.. as I wanted one last attempt at closure and to see if it was time to really move on or if she would want to give it one last go. Lesson learned.. DO NOT break NC. They dumped you for whatever reason (whether its in there head or a real thing) and they should be the one to initiate any sort of reconciliation. Until there mind is changed.. nothing you say will make a difference. Got me nowhere. So all you people out there struggling.. I really hope you hold on to the NC! just my food for thought.. needed to vent. 3
Matthew1211 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 (edited) My Ex just broke up with me a few weeks ago. We too were together for around 2.5 years. I was head over heels for her and probably would've gotten engaged in the next year or so. She wanted to do NC and I said ok. About a week or two into it she starts erasing all the photos of us and removes me as her BF on Facebook so I broke the rule and called her. She didn't answer. So I messaged her crazily (out of emotion) on Facebook as she was online and there she told me she wasn't into me romantically anymore and no matter how much I change won't matter. Now I totally turned my life around when we split, I was just so heartbroken by her breaking up with me as we've worked through everything together, always have. But you're right, no matter what I will say won't change it. I don't get it. I don't get how 2.5 years with someone can be erased. She seems super happy without me while I am grieving and making changes. She was my first love. I'm 25, was very late to the relationship game. She said I was the love of her life. Go figure...I'm heartbroken but there's nothing I can do as she's ultimately in control. I still love her and we are still friends. I just don't know how to comprehend it. You can see more in my really in-depth post on my situation. Love hurts. When you allow someone into your life like that then they just vanish like it's nothing stings. It's really ****ty in my opinion. I just don't get it as I'm such a loving and caring person. Even her family said I'm a blessing to her compared to her previous BFs who were a-holes. Edited May 9, 2016 by Matthew1211
ALL OR NOTHING Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Well guys-- Dated a girl for two and a half years.. we planned on getting engaged.. then all of a sudden she decided just wasn't into it. I respected her decisions.. and went NC. I made the mistake of breaking NC after a month.. as I wanted one last attempt at closure and to see if it was time to really move on or if she would want to give it one last go. Lesson learned.. DO NOT break NC. They dumped you for whatever reason (whether its in there head or a real thing) and they should be the one to initiate any sort of reconciliation. Until there mind is changed.. nothing you say will make a difference. Got me nowhere. So all you people out there struggling.. I really hope you hold on to the NC! just my food for thought.. needed to vent. **** ain't over till to you hear a fat lady , you only think ATM it's over , but what is over? You think your search for happiness is within her right? Your wrong it's in you! You haven't lost anything as you never really had it , you thought you did but you didn't , the key to feeling better is realizing that she had to go so you could continue to find your true happiness. Give it a few months an you won't give a **** , decide today your gunna be a champion and create all the **** that makes you one. This isn't a break up , it's a rebuild of your reality , make sure you build it into something she will regret leaving. Delete her number and block her **** , if you act like you want her Youl loose , if you act like James Bond Youl win! 2
B345T Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 It's been a month for me now and I must say the NC guide here is written beautifully. It really has helped me in moving on and just like you guys I had a 1 and a half year relationship and I did everything for this girl. Family loved me and accepted me with open arms then one day she took the lowest blow she could and cheated and did multiple things to scar me even after I forgave her and we moved on it took her a year with me to realise she didn't want it and left me. People can be dirty but the beauty of life is when you start to do really well they always want to come back around but it's always too late. We fight for what we want and we fight when we leave as well. It's always in your best interest to move on and share what you have with someone who can truly appreciate it and stick around for the long run. Let them regret their decisions on their own, we don't need to do them that favor. 2
kztar Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 **** ain't over till to you hear a fat lady , you only think ATM it's over , but what is over? You think your search for happiness is within her right? Your wrong it's in you! You haven't lost anything as you never really had it , you thought you did but you didn't , the key to feeling better is realizing that she had to go so you could continue to find your true happiness. Give it a few months an you won't give a **** , decide today your gunna be a champion and create all the **** that makes you one. This isn't a break up , it's a rebuild of your reality , make sure you build it into something she will regret leaving. Delete her number and block her **** , if you act like you want her Youl loose , if you act like James Bond Youl win! I tend to agree with this. In a few months you won't give a flying **** of what your ex is doing, who he or she is with or anything about them for that matter. Honestly, im almost 4 months out of a 1.5 year relationship and I am doing so well. The first couple of weeks I thought I was literally going to die without this man. How could he have been so in love and then not?. I went through HELL and back through that process of grieving. I lost 10 pounds, was not focused at work among other things. If anyone would have told me that 4 months out I would have been this good I would have told them you are LYING. Sadly your best friend is time here but IT WILL get better, specially if you stick to NC. If you don't I guarantee you that a year later you will be where you are today. Stick to it and forget this girl. You deserve better. Also for reference, the GRASS is SOOO much GREENER for the dumpee as well. Many tend to think that the dumper has GIGS and its all a matter of time before the dumpee realizes that GIGs exist for them too. So don't think you wont meet anyone because believe me you WILL. Take it from me, who four months ago saw all guys as zombies. 1
ALL OR NOTHING Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 I tend to agree with this. In a few months you won't give a flying **** of what your ex is doing, who he or she is with or anything about them for that matter. Honestly, im almost 4 months out of a 1.5 year relationship and I am doing so well. The first couple of weeks I thought I was literally going to die without this man. How could he have been so in love and then not?. I went through HELL and back through that process of grieving. I lost 10 pounds, was not focused at work among other things. If anyone would have told me that 4 months out I would have been this good I would have told them you are LYING. Sadly your best friend is time here but IT WILL get better, specially if you stick to NC. If you don't I guarantee you that a year later you will be where you are today. Stick to it and forget this girl. You deserve better. Also for reference, the GRASS is SOOO much GREENER for the dumpee as well. Many tend to think that the dumper has GIGS and its all a matter of time before the dumpee realizes that GIGs exist for them too. So don't think you wont meet anyone because believe me you WILL. Take it from me, who four months ago saw all guys as zombies. I'm 4 months out too , You just wake up one day and brace for the impact and it's no longer there! Then you realize that were the ones who don't give up , we're the ones that get **** done , we are the world changers , we don't belong with the giver uppers anymore. 1
Blackmoon2k4 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 I'm 4 months out too , You just wake up one day and brace for the impact and it's no longer there! Then you realize that were the ones who don't give up , we're the ones that get **** done , we are the world changers , we don't belong with the giver uppers anymore. You guys are awesome!
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