vinpsiration Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Hey guys, I'm feeling stuck with this girl and I'm not sure what I need to do. I see this girl I'm interested in about twice a week at work. When we first met, we clicked really easily. We were flirty, I can really make her laugh, and always socially engaging with each other. Things seemed to be going in a positive direction and she soon gave me her number. I was only able to text her once to grab a bite to eat (which didn't happen) until I had a financial situation (that I'm still currently in) in which I had to delay getting to hang out with her. Now after a few weeks, every time I see and talk to her at work, the vibe just isn't there anymore. She's still very friendly and we'll still share good laughs, but it seems as if she just doesn't care to see me anymore. It's like before, she wanted me to chat with her at work. But now she's kind of cold. I'm not sure if this is her playing hard to get or if she's testing me to see if I'm willing to make the move on her or if she just straight up lost interest. I'm absolutely willing to take her out, but as I mentioned, my financial situation just wouldn't allow for that. I'm having to settle for living pay check to pay check right now (although I'm really close to breaking out of this as an opportunity is getting really close for me). Once this gets straightened out, I plan on really going at it with her. I just want to know what you guys think is going on with her. Is she testing me? Is she wanting me to make the move on her? Has she lost interest? Do I need to do something differently? Can I still turn this around? To describe this girl, she's a very friendly artsy hipster girl. She's really physically touchy towards me, like high fives and her hand on my back (not sure if she's like this with everyone or not). Although we have some different interests, we're very similar in terms of behavior, values, and mannerisms. Again, there was a desire for her to want to be around me. Now that doesn't seem to exist. Let me know what you guys think!
WillowAlbero Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 I honestly doubt she is just playing hard to get. When someone is interested, they will show it. I don't see the harm in asking her out when you have the means, perhaps she isn't intending to come across as cold and is genuinely still interested. If you want an answer sooner ask her to accompany you on a trail walk or something similar (and free.)
smackie9 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 If she doesn't know your situation, then she thinks you blew her off. And next time if you ever want to ask a girl out, ask her in person. Nothing says I don't really give too much of a crap than when you text them asking them to "hang out". That's not asking her out on a proper date. First impressions are key.
mikeylo Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 You probably missed the boat. First date doesn't have to be extravagant. A coffee for 2 doesn't cost much, hey. You are making an excuse for whatever reason and she is not going to know without you telling her that you can't afford at the moment. After a certain time period , people start moving on. She apparently is.
Author vinpsiration Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 If she doesn't know your situation, then she thinks you blew her off. And next time if you ever want to ask a girl out, ask her in person. Nothing says I don't really give too much of a crap than when you text them asking them to "hang out". That's not asking her out on a proper date. First impressions are key. Ok I'll definitely let her know. And thanks a lot! This has really helped
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