MistaYates Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 I honestly feel like i can't love again. I've dated so many people and i just can't seem to find anyone as good as my first love. Its been a year since i broke up with her, and i've dated many girls. I'm currently dating this girl now who is extremely beautiful, has a good life ahead of her, and loves me to death. Its been 2 weeks into our relationship. But i just dont feel the way i did with my first love. I feel so different with my current partner to a point where im not as interested as she is. But she's so beautiful, and i do want her. Its just not the same though, i wish i could explain it better... Does this make sense?
Empyrea Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Oh dear. How old are you? Relaaaaaax. First, it's only been a year! It's unlikely to get over your first relationship in a year, let alone find the love of your life. Give it time! Maybe stop dating "so many people" and get over your previous relationship, figure out what went wrong, what you want, and then start dating again. Second, it was your first love. No one will ever hold a candle to that, because she was the FIRST. That doesn't mean she was the best, or that she will be the last. After all, you broke up with her, so something was clearly missing. She was just the first and it will always remain special. Stop comparing and give other girls a chance. And you sound seriously delusional by saying that someone you've been dating for two weeks loves you to death. Give me a break. How old are you again?? It'll probably take months to even fall in love with someone, I would never even call two weeks a relationship. How long was this first "relationship" you've been raving about? Seriously. Stop dating around like a maniac and grow up a bit. It just sounds like you're not really even ready for a relationship. 1
Methodical Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 You've been apart from your first love for 1 year and since then dated many women and none have measured up to your ex. The girl you are currently seeing has many positive attributes, loves you to death, and you don't feel a connection. First, it takes most ppl a while to get over a real love connection, and sometimes you never 'get over it' but learn to deal with it and move forward. Secondly, how long have you dated each of these many women in that 1 year time frame? Most ppl don't go on a date or two, determine that they are head over heels in love with that person, and they certainly do not deem that that person in madly in love with them in the span of two weeks. You seem to be looking for a replica of your first gf and that's not going to happen. Ppl are individuals with unique characteristics and bring different things to the table. You need to take some time off dating and realize that no two snowflakes are the same, and the same is true of ppl.
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 MistaYates Your EX was a unique individual. Every woman you meet is a unique individual and none of them will be your EX. They may share similar qualities but that is it. First you have to recognize that it will never be exactly that same. It will be different. Different is not always worse. Second, having dated somebody for a whole 2 weeks you are not about to have the same depth to your relationship that you had with your EX. What you had with your EX grew over time. That connection takes a while . . . way more than 2 weeks. To the extent you seek to instantly replace what you had, you are delusional & you will never find happiness until you accept your new reality: change happens. 1
sowhynot Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Its been a year since i broke up with her, and i've dated many girls. I'm currently dating this girl now who is extremely beautiful, has a good life ahead of her, and loves me to death. Not a problem I have. Start by counting your blessings, young man !
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