So never pay attention to what women say but how they act?

[singlelife]

Women can say all kind of things. But they show their true feelings with actions. Or so a friend told me. Women can say they don't like you but be all about you. It's up to us to figure out this nonsense? And appearently sex has nothing to do with it. I'm so confused.

[Methodical]

I suppose some women and men play childish guessing games, and when they do, they shouldn't be disappointed that their counterpart isn't a mindreader.

Those actions are more in line with the "play hard to get" games ppl played twenty years ago. I think most mature men and women tend to be more progressive and upfront without putting on false pretenses today.

[Woggle]

This goes for everybody in all situations. Always believe actions over words.

[basil67]

Women can say all kind of things. But they show their true feelings with actions. Or so a friend told me. Women can say they don't like you but be all about you. It's up to us to figure out this nonsense? And appearently sex has nothing to do with it. I'm so confused.

 

I think men can be equally guilty of doing this. My favourite approach was to not bother dating people who you can't read.

[GemmaUK]

I think what your friend meant was 'actions speak louder than words'.

 

This is true for all people, not just women.

[Buddhist]

Women can say all kind of things. But they show their true feelings with actions. Or so a friend told me. Women can say they don't like you but be all about you. It's up to us to figure out this nonsense? And appearently sex has nothing to do with it. I'm so confused.

 

No need to be confused. This is people. What? guys never tell women stuff they don't mean and act completely differently? Pls.....

[singlelife]

I think men can be equally guilty of doing this. My favourite approach was to not bother dating people who you can't read.

 

You may be on to something.

[SwordofFlame]

I won't say people lie on purpose, but often times in the dating process, they'll just say whatever it is they think you want to hear. That's another reason why you need to go by actions.

[Jersey born raised]

What a person says may be true in the moment. There actions, especially those that are repetitive over a long period of time, are the truest indication of values.

 

So what's up with this post? What's your issue?

[pteromom]

There is no point in trying to figure out what "women" do.

 

This is like trying to figure out what "birds" do, ignoring that penguins and pelicans are completely different.

 

Fact is you will only be dealing with ONE woman at a time (even if you are dating 2 or 3 or more - you are interacting with one at a time.)

 

So it doesn't matter what generalizations and stereotypes say. Even if some statistic says "95% of women like to wear a red rubber nose during sex", you might be dealing with a woman in the other 5%.

 

So here is what you do.

 

You begin figuring out who she is from the first interaction. Are her words and actions making sense to you? Are they lining up? Does she seem to be stable? Does she seem to have good relationships? Is she surrounded by drama (usually those with a lot of drama in their lives are the cause of it.) Do her values and her lifestyle align with what you want? Do you appreciate what you know about her - or are there big red flags you are ignoring?

 

The good news is that YOU have a choice in who you date. If a woman seems to be playing games or being manipulative or childish, you don't have to date her - even if she is super cute.

 

Don't worry about generalizations. Take it one woman at a time. And if you are finding someone interesting, don't let your fears get in the way of finding out who she is. Get her #! Go out! See how it goes from there.

[Shining One]

I wouldn't advise ignoring someone's words. However, when there is a conflict between their words and actions, trust the actions over the words. I would say that words match up with actions more often than not. We just tend to not notice those situations.