Sarah2015 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Long story short, I matched with this guy on an app, started talking right away and went out on a date. Great chemistry, he paid for the bill, didn't try to push anything, we kissed each other goodbye and the date was several hours long and we talked about a lot of things (family, interests, goals etc...). Got home, he texted back saying he wanted to see me again (I said I was busy but was free next week). Continued to text a lot, mostly about normal, day to day boring things but he threw in compliments here and there. Since last Thursday (after the date, we've been texting frequently) but he has not yet confirmed the second date with me. A big red flag in my view is the fact that he just moved into town about 3 weeks ago and I assume he has just entered the dating pool. Not sure why he continues to text me routinely (including good night/morning etc) if he hasn't solidified plans with me again since last seeing each other (4 days ago) and before I get caught up in it, should I just stop contacting him? My brain is telling me something is not right and that he's probably not serious.
Methodical Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 I'm a follow your gut person, but knowing he has recently relocated, and you met on a dating app, of course he's in the dating pool. You went on a date, he expressed interest in going out again and you said you were busy until next week. Unless I'm not following the timeline, the first of "next week" has just rolled around. He is texting on a regular basis to remain front and center and is prob. waiting for you to say, "hey, btw, you mentioned getting together. I'm free on Wed, (or whenever you are available)" since you said you were busy. Sounds like he is a nice guy who is respecting your schedule. Why would you toss him to the curb rather than letting him know your availability?
Author Sarah2015 Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 (edited) I'm a follow your gut person, but knowing he has recently relocated, and you met on a dating app, of course he's in the dating pool. You went on a date, he expressed interest in going out again and you said you were busy until next week. Unless I'm not following the timeline, the first of "next week" has just rolled around. He is texting on a regular basis to remain front and center and is prob. waiting for you to say, "hey, btw, you mentioned getting together. I'm free on Wed, (or whenever you are available)" since you said you were busy. Sounds like he is a nice guy who is respecting your schedule. Why would you toss him to the curb rather than letting him know your availability? That's true.....But should I reach out to him or wait until he asks me again ("hey so are you free this week?") I can't tell if he is just texting me because he is bored or actually still interested in me and I find this a bit frustrating. Maybe he decided he just wants to be friends...? Edited May 9, 2016 by Sarah2015
Methodical Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 If he was bored or not interested, I think he'd be filtering thru the pool of potential candidates on the dating app instead of maintaining steady contact with you. If you're interested, by all means let him know you have free time and would like to take him up on his offer .
basil67 Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 If I were you, I'd say to him "so, how about that second date?"
Author Sarah2015 Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 If I were you, I'd say to him "so, how about that second date?" I dont think he messages as frequently so I'm just gonna take it that he may not be as interested and wait until he asks me out again. If he still was really interested, I feel like he would have asked already.
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