Blossomingbelle Posted May 8, 2016 Posted May 8, 2016 Long story short, my ex and I broke up in December we spoke most weeks until March until I confronted him about another woman. He then blocked me and we didn't speak for 6 weeks. He contacted me last Saturday saying that he was sorry, he regretted everything, he missed me and was just scared to speak to me incase I ignored him, please forgive him he'd made a mistake etc.. So we started texting and spoke for most of the weekend he asked to meet up on Monday which I said I would to talk, we grabbed a coffee and talked through everything, nothing happened but when I left he said text me when your home. All week we have spoken everyday he has initiated the convos however I felt he started distancing himself on Thursday. I can't explain he just seemed wierd and now he read my message last night and has just not replied? No explanation no anything. What I don't understand is why if he knew he hurt me last time by doing this is he doing it again? I should say that on Saturday when he first contacted me I made it clear that I needed him to be honest with me about where I stand and if he wanted more than friends etc because I didn't want to get hurt again. He avoided an answer.
sowhynot Posted May 8, 2016 Posted May 8, 2016 He probably didn't have anything firmed up for the weekend and you were Plan B. He found someone / something better during the week so you were flipped. And boys being boys, it's more than likely it was a 'someone' not a 'something'. Sorry - some people are like that. Please - block him on your phone etc as he'll more than likely try and use you as is second option again now he knows you'll come running. 1
BC1980 Posted May 8, 2016 Posted May 8, 2016 The fact that he is now ignoring you is the answer. He is telling you that you are just friends. But he will come out and say it. You have to read between the lines. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 8, 2016 Posted May 8, 2016 I would guess there was a falling out between him and this woman, so he came back to you. Now they've patched things up, so he's back to ignoring you. I'm sorry this has happened, I know it's hurtful.
Author Blossomingbelle Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 You were right. He had fallen out with her and for the past 3 weeks we spoke and then they made up and he drops me again like I'm nothing. This is so hard to deal with. I have blocked him from everything but i don't know how I will ever get over him. why would he come back into my life just to do the same thing again after I was finally coping without him I just feel so worthless.
Zahara Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 You were right. He had fallen out with her and for the past 3 weeks we spoke and then they made up and he drops me again like I'm nothing. This is so hard to deal with. I have blocked him from everything but i don't know how I will ever get over him. why would he come back into my life just to do the same thing again after I was finally coping without him I just feel so worthless. His actions don't define your worth, OP. If anything, he's a despicable person for treating you this way. Keep him blocked. You will get over him. Maybe this will push you forward because now you get to see him for what he truly is.
avenal Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 You were right. He had fallen out with her and for the past 3 weeks we spoke and then they made up and he drops me again like I'm nothing. This is so hard to deal with. I have blocked him from everything but i don't know how I will ever get over him. why would he come back into my life just to do the same thing again after I was finally coping without him I just feel so worthless. Was he ever out of your life? As I understood the OP, you two broke up yet remained in contact afterwards?? Both of you need to get over the breakup emphatically (which would take at least months) and start over as friends. I don't think it's healthy or even feasible to automatically be "downgraded" to a friend after a romantic relationship, not immediately. 1
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