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Why did my boyfriend of two years disappear?


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I ve(25f) been dating my boyfriend (37m) for about two years now. He went away for 11 days with his family down to their condo in Florida. I was taking finals and unfortunately couldn t go for a few days. We had a lovely time right before he left and things seemed fine. He told me he liked when I used to write him little notes, so while I helped him pack I slipped in four small notes that read: "have a good day" and such to find through the week. I heard from him in a text the day after he arrived saying that he found the notes. And I called him the next evening to say hello.

I then spaced my texts and texted him 3 days later to wish him luck as he was going to call his distant daughter on her birthday. She s turning 18 and he s going to re-enter her life, so this is a big deal.

He responded that he "appreciates my support and encouragement"

Then he disappeared! Poof. I haven t heard from him in four days. Two days after our last text I called him to share some exciting news and he never called back. This has never happened, even if it s hours later he always responds.

I sent him a text just to check in and still nothing. I was worried about him but figured that his sister in law would call if something bad happened. And then I saw that he was active on FB messaging... It was hard not to look at after that. 3 hours ago... Five min ago... Driving me crazy.

I ve been keeping busy and haven t called since he didn t return my first call but now I m uncertain on what to do.

He's a very positive man and I'm in it for the long hall.

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If this is out of character for him, send him a message via a different media. Perhaps his texts are having problems getting through - it's not an unusual thing to happen.

 

Don't be scared about looking to see what's going on. This is a two year solid relationship - not a 3 week old thing. There's nothing wrong with reaching out a bit if you're committed to making it work. That said, if you reach out on other media and still get nothing, then you've got a problem.

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After two years you shouldn't be needing to play games like spacing your texts apart. I don't think that is necessary at any time really but at that age of a relationship it should be a lot more of an easy flow of communication.

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A million things could have happened. You will find out when he gets back.

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Sounds very rude on his part.

 

 

While I'm not a FB fan, I'd PM him asking if he is alright.

 

 

Then I'd go see him when he gets back & demand to know what happened.

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