preraph Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 You don't need to be either coy or play games like push/pull if you actually have a personality and some confidence and are not trying to get women who are too good looking for you. The most popular guys I've known were simply confident and friendly, and not just to the ones they wanted to have sex with, but well liked overall. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 When a guy gets a girl's number but waits 2 days to ask her out (even though he really wants to see her ASAP), why do you think that is? It's a push. Same thing with taking your time to answer a text, and an impossible amount of other things. Guys follow this stuff half-arsed, but they don't even know why or what they're doing . Then they complain it 'doesn't work', but they were only using a few cheap tricks rather than actually having an understanding of what these things were, or why they worked. Another way to look at this is pacing the communication for optimal success. It doesn't need to be or be viewed as a game. It's just good social skills and reflects normal adult priorities. Dating or not, I don't grab my phone and text people back IMMEDIATELY when I see a text unless it's an emergency. Usually I glance, note, put my phone away and focus on the person or task in front of me at the moment. At a later time, when I have time to focus, I'll text back. No game, just actually busy. When you're excited about someone, it's easy for that to come out in suffocating behaviors. Stop yourself. Breathe. Let yourself calm down before texting back, or calling back. Just take a moment or a day to center yourself. Do this for you as much as you do it to make a good impression. It's just the healthier way to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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