dannyglow Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 (edited) Been dating her maybe 3 1/2 months. We were having sex maybe 2-3 times a week average. Haven't in over a week now. Let me explain: shes been in a lot of short relationships, had flings in between. Shes very sexual and loves sex. Now we are together and she blocked/deleted her past ex's on Facebook and her phone and showed me. So now, the past week, several times, as she usually does, were on the couch or sitting and she strokes me, like not masturbating, but just stroking for fun to get me erect cause she knows she can get me going. Its always right before she has to walk out the door. Like literally on her curfew to be leaving. We've seen each other most days or nights the past week and as I say, she is attractive and loves sex and knows how to get me going. But we've had time to have sex more than once. Maybe she doesn't want to? Its like shes not super aroused. But I know she loves sex. Shes all about me, were getting to know each other well on deep levels, and intimate lots of cuddling and time together. But I'm much less sexually experienced than her, so I'm wondering if the sex part she is getting somewhere else? Is there anything I can ask her? Problem is, if I ask things like "is there anything wrong, noticed we haven't been in bed lately?" or right up front "...maybe you are getting sex somewhere else?..." she will immediately be like "no there's nothing wrong lol" and we will have sex. But I don't want that. I want to know if there is something going on. So my questions are: When should I start worrying shes getting it elsewhere? What sort of signs can I look for? And what kind of questions should I ask her? Edited May 7, 2016 by dannyglow
Author dannyglow Posted May 7, 2016 Author Posted May 7, 2016 (edited) Lol a week. Welcome to post-honeymoon relationship. I know its probably (probably) not reasonable to say a week, Im just basing this off of pattern and a girl who loves sex.. and a guy who isn't as sexually experienced like her. I know a week isnt much. Im purely basing off of pattern. And Im asking at what point should I be concerned, and what to ask or look for? Edited May 7, 2016 by dannyglow
Blanco Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 The first couple or few months of a relationship are filled with tons of passion and a (usually) unsustainable amount of sex. It's totally normal for a cooling off period to take place after a while. Depending on how often you see each other, once or twice a week isn't really that low of a total once the honeymoon phase has passed. Is this your first serious relationship? It's a little concerning that a week without sex has you thinking she could be sleeping with someone else.
Author dannyglow Posted May 7, 2016 Author Posted May 7, 2016 The first couple or few months of a relationship are filled with tons of passion and a (usually) unsustainable amount of sex. It's totally normal for a cooling off period to take place after a while. Depending on how often you see each other, once or twice a week isn't really that low of a total once the honeymoon phase has passed. Is this your first serious relationship? It's a little concerning that a week without sex has you thinking she could be sleeping with someone else. Yeah first serious one. Feel like she is right for me and she says the same. Weve gotten to know eachother really well and deep. She went through relationships where she says she was cheated on. She went to low points with drugs and at this point she was with an abusive bf, so she would get wasted at bars and go home with anyone. When I met her she was with a guy (not her abusive ex) who she didnt like, but was with for sex. F-buddies. Sher told me. Since then she deleted him.. still knows where he lives but tells me he and her ex's "have probably moved" so basically I cant know. Unless I ask again. Which I sort of and sort of don't want to. She says once she's with someone she stays with them. But Im still getting this paranoia not just the past week, but for a few.. that when she gets off work, or leaves my place early.. does she really go home? Or somewhere else. Yeah Im paranoid, but its a girl with a past and it wasn't all that long ago. Like within the year. Im not trying to make her sound bad, I know she is trying to change. I don't want her for sex, and she wants a committed relationship. Im just noticing everything at this point.
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