marx191 Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 Hi all, I became close to a girl I met in Israel, whilst there recently. We met initially, and she seemed very keen/forward with me. We kissed on the second date and around the third date she spoke about coming to the UK and seemed keen for me to come back to Israel; she in fact begged me to spend more time there this time round. I'm planning on moving there in a few years. I told her of this, and said it would therefore be okay in the end; as she was quite sad that I had to leave. At one point, she said she had a few problems in her past. I told her she could talk to me about them - but she refused, and I told her understood. This particular talk got quite deep too. I told her one or two deep things about my past (during third date). During my last day, we were planning to meet but she didn't in the end as she said she was 'tired' (fair enough). The mood at the time seemed somewhat distant and cold. She previously seemed very keen to meet. Since I got back a few days ago, she hasn't contacted me much (despite saying we would be in touch often when I returned). I messaged her yesterday, but no response - and she's evidently seen the message. What should I do? What to make of all this? Maybe the relationship got too intense too soon; but I'm still unsure how to deal with it, and want to be close to this girl. A somewhat confusing situation... 1
deadparrot Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 It sounds like she doesn't want to carry on a long-distance relationship for a number of years, and I can't blame her for that. Quite frankly, LDRs are hard-pressed to survive even when both parties are fully committed. If one partner is lukewarm, it's not going to work...I speak from experience! In short, best to let this one go. 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 During my last day, we were planning to meet but she didn't in the end as she said she was 'tired' (fair enough). The mood at the time seemed somewhat distant and cold. She previously seemed very keen to meet. Since I got back a few days ago, she hasn't contacted me much (despite saying we would be in touch often when I returned). I messaged her yesterday, but no response - and she's evidently seen the message. I don't think you need to do anything - she's done it already. Sorry OP. 1
Author marx191 Posted May 7, 2016 Author Posted May 7, 2016 I don't think you need to do anything - she's done it already. Sorry OP. Maybe it has gone cold, but I'm really confused as to why - given how things were before?
pidgeon1010 Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 Maybe it has gone cold, but I'm really confused as to why - given how things were before? Don't most relationships start out great? Be happy it happened sooner than later. I mean the fact that she didn't want to see you on your last day in Israel pretty much showed the writing was on the wall. Maybe she doesn't want to be in a LDR, maybe this was just a fling, maybe she decided the two deep things from your past were deal breakers, maybe she met someone else, etc. etc. The possibilities are endless. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 Maybe it has gone cold, but I'm really confused as to why - given how things were before? Don't dwell to much on the whys - you'll likely never know. Presumably, she knows where to find you in the event she wants to reach out. Until then, accept itas it is and move on.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 7, 2016 Posted May 7, 2016 She's not interested. Given that you barely know her, I wouldn't stress it. It was apparently a fun vacation fling but that's the extent of it.
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