IceIceBaby Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 What would you do if you decided that no contact was the best route for you to get over your ex. But your ex did not think no contact was neccesary and still wanted to maintain some sort of contact with you. This is my current situation. I have an ex who tells me I'm the only ex he's wanted to still talk to, and gets very upset at the idea of no contact. I'm dealing with the break up quite well and have no intention of going back to him, but am feeling like I'm using no contact to teach him a lesson now. Do you think no contact is neccesary? I feel like shutting him out completely is slightly immature in this situation. Part of me wants to be an adult, and still have random conversations with him on a strictly friend level. But the other part of me that gets all worked up, wants to use no contact. So I guess my question is is no contact what should always happen? If I talk to my ex here and there when one of us feels like it, will I most likely end up back in the same place and possibly even want him back?
westernxer Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 If you can handle it, talk to him. If you can't, don't. The hell with what he thinks. Self-preservation takes precedence.
whichwayisup Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Westy is bang on once again on his advice. I can't really add much more except that by keeping intouch with him or pursuing a friendship so soon is going to stop you from finding somebody else, and getting over him completely. It's like the emotional attachment is still there and but no relationship. That's really painful. Unfair too, to both of you. Once a serious relationship ends, the healthier way is to do NC because that way each of you have a chance to heal properly. I don't think "hanging" out as buddies would work because what if one of you went out on a date. The other person would feel hurt and jealous - Even though you've broken up, all the feelings are still there and fresh. BUT..whatever you can handle..Geez, I guess I did have something to say afterall...
westernxer Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Geez, I guess I did have something to say afterall... Of course you did, silly.
whichwayisup Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Of course you did, silly. Wanna know why?? Cuz I am a woman! That's why!
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