Forget About Her Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 So I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks. She's slept at my house just about every single night for the past 3 weeks (I live alone). We've developed an amazing friendship, really like each other, and are very comfortable with each other. We kiss and make out non-stop all the time, but I won't let it go any further. I can really see this developing into a serious relationship, but I'm scared of ****ing it up with sex. She has been bringing up the sex thing more and more as of recently, and I am well aware that it is available for the taking whenever I want it. My problem comes with a little problem that I have. I get very very excited and put a lot of pressure on myself the first time I'm with a girl. I usually 'finish' REALLY fast the first handful of times I am with someone new. It is probably the most embarressing thing that I have in my life. We almost got into this morning when we woke up, but I kind of stopped her (like usual), and she has been dropping hints about it all day. I know that she wants to doit, but I don't know what to do. It's such an embarressment, especially b/c I have a bit of a reputation of "getting around".
laRubiaBonita Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 ok....my bf had this little "mind-over-matter" problem in the beginning of our relationship too. and, although it was highly annoying sometimes, it was never anything i EVER mentioned, or picked at him over. I totally related, and i could easily sympathize. Is this REALLY the reason your are putting sex off? why not mention it......say something about how you are shy around "new" people. If you two are as great as you seem to think, i would imagine there would be no issue. By the way, my bf is totally fine, and normal now.
Author Forget About Her Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Yes, that is really why I have put off sex. I've made up stupid ass excuses to tell her, but it's really embarressing. It wasn't a constant problem with my ex, as we could have sex for long periods of time without my blowing my load, I think it's just the excitement of someone new. Maybe I should just blurt it out to her and by honest about it.
orta Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by Forget About Her Maybe I should just blurt it out to her and by honest about it. I think that's the best thing that you can do. You've been with this woman non-stop for three weeks, and she feels comfortable enough to spend nearly every night with you alone. I think that you can sit her down and tell her that you have something to inform her about. Tell her you would love to take the relationship further, but you are embarrassed about what happens when you are with a new partner. Tell her like it is. I don't think she'd mind too much if she expects you to be really quick the first few times. It takes everyone some time to get comfortable. With me, I can't easily get, or keep an erection around someone new. If the clothes are on, or I'm not expected to have intercourse I'm rock steady. Until I get comfortable with the new person, however, I'm on again, off again with my erections. I think everyone has some type of natural response to getting into something new.
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