Something seems "off".. is it just me?

[Allfromabove2002]

Been dating a guy for a little over 2 weeks. We clicked really well, he was always genuinely excited to see and talk to me. He told his family and coworkers about me, even had me meet his 10yr old son on a little outting.

 

But something has felt.. off for the last couple days. He visited me the other day for a short time to talk, we laughed and it all seemed fine. He said earlier he couldn't stay long, as he had to be at work at 5am the next morning. He than got a phone call, which he answered. I heard a womans voice but not what she was saying. He mentioned returning something, dvds I believe, moving that person, plans for Sunday, talked about that person being able to crash at his place Friday night because he wouldnt be there (he had plans to stayover with me that night as we both have a 3 day weekend and was going to spend it together) than said "I love you too" and seemed very tense after that. Later he said ok mom, i love you.

 

I didnt react, it didnt set off any alarms really but I did wonder, as Im sure everyone would.. but after the phone call he talked about his mother a lot, plans to eat at his aunts sunday, ect ect. Than asked what I was thinkin, and seemed concern.

 

Than this morning he texted me saying he was almost to the work site (an hour later than he said the other day, hence why he couldnt stay long) I brought that up and he said he was there on time, but napped in his car because everyone else slept in. ps. he is construction, had to be there early for a job an hour and a half away. when I didnt reply (I fell back asleep) he called me. Said he was waiting for them to unload and wanted to talk. He seemed really off, not his usual laughing self. Talked about work and what had happened, asked about my morning. Than said he had to go and used my name (also unusual) when he said goodbye. Unusual as in, nornally we just say bye. no pet names or names. just bye.

 

he also didnt text me on his lunch break today, which he has done every day since we met.

 

reading this, everything in my mind points to cheating... but.. I've been to his house, I've met his son and he made it clear we were dating to him, we go out in public..

 

why didnt he mention me at all in the phone call?

why did he act so weird and tense after it?

what was with the gotta work early, than everyone else (even the boss) slept in?

 

I feel like he's lying about something.. something feela really off..

 

should I bring it up? be straight forward and ask him all of that? I dont want to chase him away or make things weirder..

[CarrieT]

The big red flag is that you met his child after knowing him for 14 days...

 

What person does that to a child? He doesn't know if you are going to be in this child's life 14 months or 14 years from now...

 

Seriously - slow the heck down!

 

I think you barely know this person and now you have all these red flags that point to things which aren't right. Listen to your gut...

[Michelle ma Belle]

First, it's only been two weeks, so take that into consideration.

 

Second, if it bothers you so much I would definitely confront him and let him know that you sense there a shift and see what he says.

 

If he continues to deny there is any issue then you're going to have to figure out how to move on from there especially if his odd behavior continues. And for the record, just because some men introduces you to their son, unfortunately, it means very little.

 

Good luck.

[smackie9]

are you always this paranoid about people you date?? If they miss a phone call, or they are in a rush?

 

BTW you are only dating, so if he has other things going on, that's kinda his business unfortunately. And if you are worried about scaring him off, then he wasn't the guy for you in the first place.

[hippychick3]

It's only been 2 weeks. You do NOT know this man yet. I can't believe he introduced you to his kid already. Big red flag.

 

Slow waaaay down and busy yourself with friends, family, work, hobbies, etc so you're not so hyper focused on everything he says and does.

[ExpatInItaly]

You say you've been dating for two weeks; can you clarify how long you've actually known him? Did you know him prior to these past two weeks?

 

If this is someone you met only recently, you don't know what his "usual" behaviour is. Some people get tired or stressed or distracted. It doesn't necessarily mean there is another woman involved. Is there a reason why your mind went there first?

 

I would agree with the others that meeting his son only two weeks after dating is far too soon.