She's into me but not for dates?

[truth_seeker]

It's never good to keep putting yourself in a position to get rejected over and over again by a girl. It starts to make you look low value.

 

If you want to walk but leave the door open, you just tell her 'get back to me when your schedule opens up', and leave it at that. Do not call or text her again.

 

She'll know your an option, mate. Trust me on that. I've often had women contact me many months later. Women don't forget these things. And if things are going well, you won't entertain the idea by then anyway.

 

You have to be secure enough to walk away from anyone who isn't giving you what you want.

 

Yes. If a woman likes you, she will keep you on file until an opportunity arises at a later date. The key is do you want the woman when she does come around? If so, make sure she plays by your rules.

[preraph]

This sounds exactly like how I ended up with my best friend while she was raising a toddler. She was pretty much stuck following her kid around and anyone who would keep her company while she did so was quite welcome. But otherwise, she wouldn't make time. Actually, I've had two friends like this. The other was a grandmother who picked her grandkids up for the working mother. She was always inviting me over right about that time and I finally told her that wasn't my idea of a good time, plus I got stuck there for too long because it would put me right at rush hour going home.

 

She's not into you. She just wants company while she babysits.

[IslandDude]

Of course I wanted to kiss her or else I wouldn't even be asking for advice here

 

The thing is I didn't feel like there were any signs that she wanted to be kissed on the first date but hell what do I know? After reading all the are replies I'm more confused now...

 

The strange thing is even when she doesn't have her daughter she is still texting me. I guess I should just me like "do you want me to come over now or what?" whenever she texts me at night when she doesn't have her daughter. I've given her plenty of opportunity though. For instance she'll text something like "just sitting on the couch watching tv" and I'll reply "want some company?" or she'll say "washing clothes" and I'll say "want help folding?". She always just ignores or says something like "no I'll probably fall asleep soon"... I mean why is she telling me these mundane details if she doesn't want any kind of response. Guess she's just lonely but not lonely enough.

[Jabron1]

Of course I wanted to kiss her or else I wouldn't even be asking for advice here

 

The thing is I didn't feel like there were any signs that she wanted to be kissed on the first date but hell what do I know? After reading all the are replies I'm more confused now...

 

The strange thing is even when she doesn't have her daughter she is still texting me. I guess I should just me like "do you want me to come over now or what?" whenever she texts me at night when she doesn't have her daughter. I've given her plenty of opportunity though. For instance she'll text something like "just sitting on the couch watching tv" and I'll reply "want some company?" or she'll say "washing clothes" and I'll say "want help folding?". She always just ignores or says something like "no I'll probably fall asleep soon"... I mean why is she telling me these mundane details if she doesn't want any kind of response. Guess she's just lonely but not lonely enough.

 

She's just attention seeking, and making sure you are still in her orbit.

 

Ignore her, or block her.

 

Next time you want to kiss a girl, just go for it on the first date. You might not get a second, third, or fourth chance.

 

Carpe diem.

 

Read my posts again . Focus on what you are going to do on the next date, not what you did on the last one.

[pidgeon1010]

Because I'm attracted and I desire to.

 

Why would I date women that I don't want to kiss?

 

Do I really need to point out such basic things?

 

 

 

I see no point in waiting until date 2,3, or 4 just to kiss someone. That's just avoidance.

 

Feel free to disagree.

 

OP can ultimately do what he likes. If that is taking 3 dates to build up the courage for a kiss, that's up to him. But, a lot of women find that a turn off, and he needs to be honest with himself about why he's doing that.

 

Who really knows what would have happened had they passionately kissed? That's the point. He could/should have found out.

 

 

 

I've already dealt with this.

 

It's all semantics. All these terms are basically synonyms in the context. Attracted=liking or interested in something, inviting or pleasing to the senses, alluring, etc. etc. It could be purely physical interest but it is what it is. I stand by what I said. A good first date is not dependent on kissing. If there is mutual interest from both parties after a first date, things will move forward irrespective of whether they kissed or not.

[Jabron1]

It's all semantics. All these terms are basically synonyms in the context. Attracted=liking or interested in something, inviting or pleasing to the senses, alluring, etc. etc. It could be purely physical interest but it is what it is. I stand by what I said. A good first date is not dependent on kissing. If there is mutual interest from both parties after a first date, things will move forward irrespective of whether they kissed or not.

 

Your advice is do nothing.

 

My advice is strike while the irons hot.

[pidgeon1010]

Your advice is do nothing.

 

My advice is strike while the irons hot.

 

LOL well that's your flawed interpretation of what I said. I just gave my opinion on whether a first date kiss is a necessity. I'm done with this line of discussion. To each his/her own.