Stage5Clinger Posted May 6, 2016 Posted May 6, 2016 She broke up with me tonight. She blamed it on hanging out with a girl who is just a friend, although that was just a convenient reason. Our relationship has sucked for a few months now. I have been suspecting she is hanging out with another guy and her text responses have been one word. I would ask her how she's doing and she would respond "Good." Bull****. I spent about $150 on dinners and stand up comedy tickets last weekend. She barely said thank you, started complaining that the standup was going too long, and then when we got home paid me no attention in bed. We were only hanging out once a week and BARELY talking the rest of the week. Yet for some reason I'm still kinda upset about it. I don't have a lot of friends and it felt good to have a "girlfriend" - someone who cared about me no matter how distant. I guess this frees me up at least to find someone more compatible. Just wanted to update you guys and I guess if anyone has any tips on how to keep my head held high those are very welcome. 1
Author Stage5Clinger Posted May 6, 2016 Author Posted May 6, 2016 Also, I see she already has a profile on OKCupid... that's pretty depressing
SammySammy Posted May 6, 2016 Posted May 6, 2016 I'm a pimp by blood, not relation Ya'll still chase on, I replace on
smudge21 Posted May 6, 2016 Posted May 6, 2016 My favourite line time again, you're treating her like a priority and she's treating you like an option. She clearly isn't interested (if she was, you'd know it). You're doing all the work and she's just letting you do it without having to do anything in return. It's not a relationship, not even a friendship. You know it's wrong... but... I know full well how hard it can be to accept that truth when you have feelings for someone. You have slapped her on that pedestal and now can't get her off it. She broke up with you too so even at the end, she's still in control and you're left hanging. There's no way for you to get that power back, but you can move on and heal. Follow the No Contact guide and do it to the letter, no excuses, no checking up on her (social media, online dating) at all. Only once she's off that pedestal will you be able to look back at this and see how wrong she was for you. I get this as it's what I'm doing right now. The thoughts still pop in, but so does the reality that she was never the person I made her out to be. Good luck. 2
Author Stage5Clinger Posted May 6, 2016 Author Posted May 6, 2016 @smudge21 Thank you for your reply. I like the line most "it's not even a friendship"... That is too true. I once told her how bad I needed a massage and she said" you can rub my back if you want. " I found that pretty revealing. She also told me not to hold her once or twice which looking back is severely ****ed up. Lots of red flags and I ignored them all in hopes of making it work. Stupid. Hopefully I can find someone more compatible after this experience...
smudge21 Posted May 6, 2016 Posted May 6, 2016 @smudge21 Thank you for your reply. I like the line most "it's not even a friendship"... That is too true. I once told her how bad I needed a massage and she said" you can rub my back if you want. " I found that pretty revealing. She also told me not to hold her once or twice which looking back is severely ****ed up. Lots of red flags and I ignored them all in hopes of making it work. Stupid. Hopefully I can find someone more compatible after this experience... Ha, been there totally. It's funny how we can clearly see the red flags yet ignore them because we're simply in love. I can't count the amount of times I've seen other people make bad choices and yet gone and made the exact same choices myself. Love truly is blind. Stay strong though and hopefully things will get better. We don't chose who we fall for, it just happens. I so wish I'd had more control over it in the past and wished it had been easier to knock them off that pedestal, but sh*t happens. Go find your inner happiness, whatever way you can, and you'll start to realise that she was not the source of your smile. Maybe then you can kick her ass off that pedestal.
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