Does this guy still have feelings for me? Why does he wait 5 years to tell me?

[xaznbabyx]

I met and dated this guy about 5 years ago. We never made it official. He finally told me his feelings after 5 years. Well he's married and just had a baby. So why is he bringing up the past and telling me that he enjoyed being with me? He said we never officially broken up because I did not want to be his girlfriend. It wasn't that I did not want to be his girlfriend. It was because he told me he was still dating other girls and that I was first on his list? (His list?? Like wth??? He also rate girls too that he went on dates with.) I don't like that. I did like him and enjoyed being with him. But he kinda scared me when he asked if I wanted kids in the future and asked me if I wanted to move in. I wasn't his girlfriend and I was only 25 and had things I wanted to do first before settling down.

 

HIs wife had always been jealous and told him not to invite me to his wedding even when we just ended things on mutual terms. I think he always had issues with her, but I was like why didn't you end things with her in the first place? They were together for like 4 or 5 years now.

 

He also said "I'm glad no hard feelings because I wanted to find someone closer to me." the hell? (We live about 50 mins away and I started driving that year). He said that he wanted to tell me since we kinda just ended it like that and he always felt bad about it. uh ok...? he later said he didn't want kids right away but just wanted me to just move in with him cuz he was bored. I'm like huh cuz your bored, it seems like he's not too into me but just enjoys my company??? I'm a little piss at him for telling me this now because there's no turning back... What is his deal? What's the point of telling me this stuff now????

 

My only one concern is can I trust him? Will he be faithful and not look at other girls? I couldnt be certain and the way he rates girls too. Right now hes not happy with his current wife and he's turning to me all of a sudden and expressing his feelings to me. in the back of my mind I'm like what the hell???

 

 

I have a boyfriend now btw. My boyfriend and I argue a lot and sometimes we even wanted to break up a few times and I have to admit that sometimes I do think about the guy and wondered what my life would be.

[Satu]

Have you considered the possibly that neither your ex, nor your current boyfriend are really right for you?

 

It sounds a bit like that to me.

 

 

"Ambivalence is a state of having simultaneous conflicting reactions, beliefs, or feelings towards some object. Stated another way, ambivalence is the experience of having an attitude towards someone or something that contains both positively and negatively valences components."

 

 

Take care.

[DevotedBaker54]

I think it's weird timing that he would reach out to you right after having a baby. Maybe he isn't adjusting to having a family? I'm sorry you're fighting with your current bf, making this with your ex look better. Maybe one day you'll find a man who is better than both of these men and you'll understand why things didn't work out with the others. Best of luck!

[smackie9]

He's not getting the attention he used to get....now the baby gets it all. This is a common thing with new fathers...they feel pushed out, so they seek out attention from another women (you).

 

Your ex sounds like a dip &*%$. Tell him to stop contacting you or you will tell his wifie what he's been saying to you.

 

Next, end things with your BF. It sounds too toxic to make an effort to stay.