aries85 Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 I was seeing a guy for 2 weeks and things were going great. We hit it off immediately and he was very interested in me. We spent almost every night of the two weeks sleeping together. I know it seems very soon, but we've known each other before the 2 weeks where we really started dating, and like i said, we really connected. The last time I saw him was last friday night. He left his friends at a different bar to come meet me at the bar I was at and we spent the night together. In the morning we both had early obligations so we left in a rush. In the afternoon I texted him asking him how his thing went and he replied that he was still there. So I asked him to text me later. I went away for the weekend and never received a text from him. At the end of the weekend I was hoping he would text me to see how my trip went, but he never did. Now it's finals week (I'm in college) and I texted him on Tuesday asking if he wanted to study with me. But he said he has a group capstone project due at the end of the week and he needed to work on it with his group. He also has a very important final this week. Now I understand he's busy and I'm totally okay with not seeing him until finals are over, but I'm kind of stressing out because I think maybe he's just not into me anymore. Or I said/did something that upset him. I have finals too and I'm busy too, but I still think about him and want to text him to check up on him. Does he not miss me and want to check up on me too? I'm going to wait until the end of the week to do anything, but it's driving me insane at the moment. I'm really anxious that I said/did something that turned him off or he just lost interest for some reason. Any thoughts? Especially from the guys about what might be going on in his mind?
MsJayne Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 After only two weeks together, even just using the term "check up" is a bit heavy. Maybe he senses the urgency and pressure from you, (I pick it up from your post), and it's making him have second thoughts. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 Way too much too soon. The reality is you barely know each other. Sure, you felt sparks but spending nearly every night together so early is generally not a good idea. it creates a lot expectations when you're still virtually strangers. May I ask two questions: how did you meet him, and were you having sex? Don't text him again. You didn't necessarily do anything wrong, but he's clearly dialing down the intensity. He knows how to reach you. 1
Zippy2000 Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 Well , you gave him "the goods" way too soon by sleeping with him. Early on, men arent that invested in you as a person. They tend to see you as a sex object. Men can have sex without emotional attachment. You could of waited to see if he was into you buy letting him invest in time with you. I mean what happened to the says of woo-ing a woman or creating romance. He`s now had his just desserts so hes now possibly bored with you and I no doubt do a slow fade. Miss you? Probably but was no doubt looking for sex more than anything else. Next time slow down. He wasnt interested in you but in it for the sex.
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