Among Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 I took this girl on two dates, the first one did not go great but it wasn't terrible. The second one was really good and we kissed but a couple days later she explained she didn't want a relationship and blah blah. I said okay that's fine. Anyways she texted me one night saying that she made a mistake and she was regretting not wanting a relationship at the time. So we decided to hang out one night and it was great and everything and we kissed and she left we were texting and she said that she was wanting us to hang out as friends and sorry she did not make that clear. I said I was sorry and asked if she just wanted to be friends. She said I want to be close friends first so I know what I am getting into, I don't want to rush. Anyways were gonna hang out with some other friends and I was wondering how I approach this as far as texting and my actions.
californiablonde Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 This girl seems really confusing. She goes out with you twice then tells you a few days later in a round about way she's not really feeling it. Then she texts you at night saying she changed her mind. How long after this did she text you and was she maybe intoxicated? At which point after you see her again and spend some time together and she again says that she wants to be friends. It all sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. I can respect wanting to build a relationship on the foundation of friendship first but she is going about it backwards. I don't know how much you like her but I would keep it very casual. Right now she is running the show rather than it being an equal push-pull scenario.
PegNosePete Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 we kissed and she left we were texting and she said that she was wanting us to hang out as friends and sorry she did not make that clear. Yeah, kissing is kinda unclear if you just want to be friends. You could probably convert this into a FWB if that's what you want. But if you want a relationship you're probably barking up the wrong tree. She is trying to friend-zone you. 1
smudge21 Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Did you pay up for all these "dates"? Sounds to me she enjoyed the attention and maybe wanted to get a bit more, but didn't want to give anything in return. Like Pete says, maybe you can get a FWB deal with this, but do you really want that? You DO NOT want to be just friends with her, so if she says it's only friends then walk away. Go hang out with your real friends and let her find another "friend" somewhere else.
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