Fuerza Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 I've had a fair share of Tinder dates but this one has to be the most bizarre one. I matched someone and we decided to meet up 3 days after that. Didn't talk much on the app itself, we were pretty occupied so I didn't have a clue who he was. But why waste time chatting if you can get to know someone in real life, right? Date itself was nice, he paid for literally everything, refused to let me pay, we laughed, were having fun and he said he wanted to meet me again soon and he asked if I felt the same. So I said, let's do it! Day after that, he sent me a message saying he had fun blabla you know standard message asking for a second date and I said I felt the same way blabla, let's meet up again soon! Then for some reason he changed into a ghost, responded super late (days after my message), which for the first week I kind of had understanding for as he has a busy job but come on, not answering a message because of not having time is just bull****. So I had enough of it and I asked him if he was still interested because his late responding (or just lack of) made me feel like he was just not interested. He apologizes that day (miracle!), says he's absolutely interested, he's sorry he made me feel that way and ends the message with 'lets meet this week what do you think?'. So I'm like yeah sure, I tell him when I have time etc. and again no message for 2 days. Then I get a text from him saying he does not have internet (we were talking through whatsapp) but that he has time on the day I proposed, so I sent a message back asking what hour suits him best. Guess what? NO RESPOND! 2 days later (or however long exactly lol) again I get a message from him through Whatsapp, asking me how I am doing and stuff, not even mentioning the second date. I stayed nice even though I was super annoyed, asked how he was doing and that was that. We were going to meet up tomorrow, but honestly I'm not going to even bother asking him. Curious if he's going to mention it though. But honestly what is this? This has to be the strangest guy I've ever met damn. To be continued?
Zippy2000 Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 Strangest guy you have ever met? Well, you have been sign posted early on for his bad behaviour. It coud get worse. He really isnt thinking that much about you and who knows. He is on Tinder. He could be talking to and seeing other girls. Id say give it time and see if it goes beyond a 3 date. Ive never had much luck on a dating app. The quality of dates there are very poor. Remember originally it was a hook up app. Remember, safety first and take time to get to know him.
Author Fuerza Posted May 4, 2016 Author Posted May 4, 2016 He is seeing someone else. Very possible! Who knows, maybe I'm his "back up plan". Yeah, next! Strangest guy you have ever met? Well, you have been sign posted early on for his bad behaviour. It coud get worse. He really isnt thinking that much about you and who knows. He is on Tinder. He could be talking to and seeing other girls. Id say give it time and see if it goes beyond a 3 date. Ive never had much luck on a dating app. The quality of dates there are very poor. Remember originally it was a hook up app. Remember, safety first and take time to get to know him. Ohno, I'm not giving it any time anymore. I'm a pretty patient person but it's been 2 weeks now since our last date and he answers whenever he feels like. I'm not the type of women that will just sit around and wait, if he's not into this for the full 100% then I'm out, which I am. I have to agree with you on the quality of dates with these apps! I've only been using it to meet people though, not specifically relationship material. Thank you! 1
joseb Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 Most people on tinder, and OLD are multi dating. So get used to this kind of stuff. You should have called him out on the missing date, my guess is he forgot cause he is juggling too many. But yeah,if you want a guy that's 100% into you alone from date one, he isn't the one.
Miss Peach Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 That sounds pretty normal in the dating world actually. Since reliability is something I'm looking for I flush guys that act like that. He's just trying to keep you warm in his harem or he's not interested enough IMO.
iphone_user1 Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 (edited) Well... Thats OLD nowadays. You have no idea how many girls have done that to us (men) that I alrealdy lost the count. Get used to it or madness is comming to you by trying to figure out flakers. Keep moving forward, don't sweat it and do not step out of your way for one guy. It gets easier if you accept from level 0 that the other person can fade away or ghost you anytime, even months in. Edited May 4, 2016 by iphone_user1
Author Fuerza Posted May 5, 2016 Author Posted May 5, 2016 Most people on tinder, and OLD are multi dating. So get used to this kind of stuff. You should have called him out on the missing date, my guess is he forgot cause he is juggling too many. But yeah,if you want a guy that's 100% into you alone from date one, he isn't the one. Should I have? I was contemplating confronting him with it but I really couldn't be bothered anymore. It's not really that, I just think it's silly to send out mixed signals like this. He was pretty much leading me on with his words but his actions proved otherwise. That sounds pretty normal in the dating world actually. Since reliability is something I'm looking for I flush guys that act like that. He's just trying to keep you warm in his harem or he's not interested enough IMO. Pretty sad that it has become 'normal' in the dating world really. But yeah agree, this one I flushed right out! Haven't heard from him either today, what should I do btw, just block him? Or send him a message I'm not interested anymore and be polite about it? Well... Thats OLD nowadays. You have no idea how many girls have done that to us (men) that I alrealdy lost the count. Get used to it or madness is comming to you by trying to figure out flakers. Keep moving forward, don't sweat it and do not step out of your way for one guy. It gets easier if you accept from level 0 that the other person can fade away or ghost you anytime, even months in. Naah definitely not sweating it, this guy was just a bizarre experience really!
Patrice Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 No, don't confront him. Wait, because he will contact you again. When he does, then confront him and say this isn't acceptable to you. I dated a guy last year, who would disappear for 3-4 days. He had asked me if I was seeing anyone else, and I said no. I finally had enough of the disappearing act. I bought a new car in January - I had not seen him since November. The saleswoman and the dealership started talking about on line dating, and lo and behold - she had been out with him, when he was supposed to be dating me. He contacted me last week, saying he thinks about me all the time, how sexy I am and yada, yada. I simply said, I met someone who knows you ... and then, blew him out of the water. I doubt I'll hear from him again
angel.eyes Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 He's telling you very early on through his actions that he's not your cup of tea. He's not going to give you what you're looking for. It was only one date! What's the point of confronting someone who doesn't care??? ...and his behavior (ignoring, flaking, etc.) clearly signals that he just doesn't care. Personally, I would move on to the next first date. This one's not worth any more of your time or energy.
smudge21 Posted May 5, 2016 Posted May 5, 2016 Stop being so available when he comes a callin'. He's currently seeing you as an option and everytime he blanks you and then makes contact, you jump to his beat.. which in turn tells him he doesn't really need to up his game as you're hanging on his every word right now. Screw that! You're no one's option (unless you're 2nd in line on a firing squad, then option is a good place to be). Should he call again, let him pick a date and then be the one to let him down, via a short text. He may find his own medicine isn't as tasty as he thought.
Author Fuerza Posted May 5, 2016 Author Posted May 5, 2016 No, don't confront him. Wait, because he will contact you again. When he does, then confront him and say this isn't acceptable to you. I dated a guy last year, who would disappear for 3-4 days. He had asked me if I was seeing anyone else, and I said no. I finally had enough of the disappearing act. I bought a new car in January - I had not seen him since November. The saleswoman and the dealership started talking about on line dating, and lo and behold - she had been out with him, when he was supposed to be dating me. He contacted me last week, saying he thinks about me all the time, how sexy I am and yada, yada. I simply said, I met someone who knows you ... and then, blew him out of the water. I doubt I'll hear from him again Woooow what a plot twist! What an ass too, damn. I'm pretty sure he'll contact me again too, once he gets sick of the other girls he's dating. Thanks for the tip! He's telling you very early on through his actions that he's not your cup of tea. He's not going to give you what you're looking for. It was only one date! What's the point of confronting someone who doesn't care??? ...and his behavior (ignoring, flaking, etc.) clearly signals that he just doesn't care. Personally, I would move on to the next first date. This one's not worth any more of your time or energy. Oh I've moved on, thought this was just a fun story to share on here. He's the one that asked for a second date, not me, so I thought he was just busy but still interested. NOT! Stop being so available when he comes a callin'. He's currently seeing you as an option and everytime he blanks you and then makes contact, you jump to his beat.. which in turn tells him he doesn't really need to up his game as you're hanging on his every word right now. Screw that! You're no one's option (unless you're 2nd in line on a firing squad, then option is a good place to be). Should he call again, let him pick a date and then be the one to let him down, via a short text. He may find his own medicine isn't as tasty as he thought. Honestly I'm not going to fake my availability to make guys feel like they have to fight for me. I know girls that will wait houuuurs to respond to a text from a guy they like, to make them wait and see if they are patient. I'm not like that and I think it's stupid tbh. Anyways, agree with the option thing, what this guy tells me is that he doesn't even have the balls to tell me straight in my face he's not interested and well that's a turn off anyways. Haha ohman, that would be cruel! I think I'll just ignore his text if he ends up sending something, read it so that whatsapp shows that I've read it but just not respond to it lol.
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