My hate for my now exMM!

[westernxer]

Originally posted by SweetSerenity

I think you're stirring the pot.

 

If I'm stirring the pot, it means I did my job. You can tell a lot about someone by observing how they react to what's being said. If they take it with a grain of salt and admit their culpability, great. If they deny it and get defensive, that shows their sole objective is their own pleasure -- at the expense of everything and everyone. Of course insecurity has a lot to do with it, but that doesn't excuse their actions. It just makes them more irrational.

 

Somebody's gotta set it straight, even if it causes a chain reaction. Sympathy is for babies and the mentally disabled. Everyone else is just afraid to confront their demons... which is why we have so much pain in this world.

[TUDOR]

Originally posted by westernxer

If I'm stirring the pot, it means I did my job. You can tell a lot about someone by observing how they react to what's being said. If they take it with a grain of salt and admit their culpability, great. If they deny it and get defensive, that shows their sole objective is their own pleasure -- at the expense of everything and everyone. Of course insecurity has a lot to do with it, but that doesn't excuse their actions. It just makes them more irrational.

 

Somebody's gotta set it straight, even if it causes a chain reaction. Sympathy is for babies and the mentally disabled. Everyone else is just afraid to confront their demons...

 

I'm all for stirring the pot and playing devil's advocate but I sense the frustration with the ladies is you haven't really said anything pretaining to the original post. I do enjoy the reactions though!

[westernxer]

It all relates, if you look at it closely.

[SweetSerenity]

Beautiful post, beautiful. *weep weep*. No seriously I totally agree with you. But sympathy is also for those in need of it and this chick is not in need of it. What she is in need of is a good cup of reality.

[westernxer]

I agree, SweetSerenity. Sympathy is something we all deserve from time to time. I think LatinGoddess is just hurting and this is a knee-jerk reaction to a situation gone awry. I hope she can see through this and receive enough strength to move on. I know for a fact she'll be a much better person for it.

 

Growing from an experience is tough, but it's totally worth it. Vindication is an ugly thing, unless you're the Batman.

 

And don't weep too much, please.

[guest]

HE is the only one responsible for destroying your life? Wake up!!! You were also part of destroying your life too, he isn't responsible for all of it. You were the one that chose to get involved w/ a MM. Even if he was persuing you, you could of said one simple little word, NO! Your poor H, the poor W and their children, if there is any. You deserve to be hurt just like the W is going to be hurt when/if she finds out. Hell, she may already know.

 

You have no business telling his W. Whether she finds out or not about the A, it's not your responsibilty to tell her. Even though he was a jerk for having an A hopefully he will be decent enough to tell her the truth b4 you do the dirty work.

[SweetSerenity]

Don't worry I won't. Lol. We haven't heard from her so I'm guessing she is either sullen or she is re-thinking her whole vindication situation.

[jj003]

Originally posted by westernxer

I agree, SweetSerenity. Sympathy is something we all deserve from time to time. I think LatinGoddess is just hurting and this is a knee-jerk reaction to a situation gone awry. I hope she can see through this and receive enough strength to move on. I know for a fact she'll be a much better person for it.

 

Growing from an experience is tough, but it's totally worth it. Vindication is an ugly thing, unless you're the Batman.

 

And don't weep too much, please.

 

Vindication is an ugly thing, unless you're the Batman., finally, you said something real cool !!

[newbby]

be careful ladies,

westernxr only talks to people with vaginas for one reason

[Guest]

She got herself into this and instead of holding up a mirror decides to project her bad decision-making on someone else. She may grow or she may not. It will be up to her. What's worse? Blaming oneself or placing the blame on someone else? The choice is a matter of maturity and self-awareness.

[jj003]

Originally posted by newbby

be careful ladies,

westernxr only talks to people with vaginas for one reason

you are more cool !!!

[westernxer]

Originally posted by jj003

you are more cool !!!

 

I'll make an exception for the women on LoveShack.

[ww]

You know what LatinGoddess?

WHATEVER!

WHO CARES!

If you have no better thing to do than to waste your time on hate and regret and causing other people pain..than go on. No one can stop you!

.ermmm...clever girls know there are other options too. One of them is BEING HAPPY and work in on your own life style.

[NiCoLe20]

homewreckers!!!!!!!!!!

[Craig]

I don't understand people who say they aren't helpless and then say they just happened to fall in love with a married person, that they never planned it, it just happened and that you don't plan who you fall in love with.

 

What could be more helpless?

 

A person that isn't helpless plans NOT to fall in love with a married person.

[newbby]

possibly ow are helpless within the situation they are in, but can be helped to get out of it.

or are you trying to say they are helpless people in general?

[westernxer]

Originally posted by newbby

possibly ow are helpless within the situation they are in, but can be helped to get out of it.

or are you trying to say they are helpless people in general?

 

I don't think he's referring to the latter.

 

be careful ladies,

westernxr only talks to people with vaginas for one reason

 

When I'm through with you, you'll be grateful you have one.

[newbby]

When I'm through with you, you'll be grateful you have one.

 

you mean i'll be glad i'm not like you!

[zack121]

Originally posted by westernxer

 

Nothing just happens... that's the worst excuse I ever heard.

 

You da man...!!

[BoatingBabe]

Originally posted by Craig

I don't understand people who say they aren't helpless and then say they just happened to fall in love with a married person, that they never planned it, it just happened and that you don't plan who you fall in love with.

 

What could be more helpless?

 

A person that isn't helpless plans NOT to fall in love with a married person.

 

+1

 

I've been on both sides of the fence and I hated myself for falling .....But I did walk away without making any waves, facing my own culpability, vulnerability in the matter...and let Karma take care of him.

Now I am confronting the issue again, with another MM, but I am keeping strong and NOT going down that route..ok, so I made a few mistakes, but I haven't jumped in the pool. Even when one of my closest friends is telling me to go for it...Some friend huh?

[Marie1973]

Nicole20-

 

You are calling us homewreckers

 

Sorry but got news for ya babe................. NO ONE COULD SPLIT UP A HAPPY MARRIAGE!

[westernxer]

Originally posted by Marie1973

Nicole20-

 

You are calling us homewreckers

 

Sorry but got news for ya babe................. NO ONE COULD SPLIT UP A HAPPY MARRIAGE!

 

That is true.

[scarlyjones]

Originally posted by Marie1973

Nicole20-

 

You are calling us homewreckers

 

Sorry but got news for ya babe................. NO ONE COULD SPLIT UP A HAPPY MARRIAGE!

 

 

So you're saying that its not the fault of the OTHER woman? That they're marriage was in trouble anyway? You dont really think that makes getting between a married man and his wife ok, do you?

 

What if some b*tch was with YOUR husband? And you confront her and she says "What??...Your marriage is in trouble anyway..." You'd punch her right in the face and you know it.

[TUDOR]

I think that argument is not that a troubled marriage is justification for or open season for OW to go after a MM, most OW will tell you they don't plan to go after them at all it just happens. But what is being said that no OW will break up a happy marriage. If the marriage is happy the OW will not succeed in breaking up a the marriage if that is her intent no matter how hard she tries. But if the marriage is happy there shouldn't be an OW at all now should there?

[SweetSerenity]

Yeah thats right people, punch the other woman in the face, that'll show her. Some of the people on LS really really really make me laugh. Fighting and punching and cussing do nothing but come back on you. Sure you'll feel vindicated for awhile but people will see you the same way you see the OW. A weak meaningless piece of sobbing childish flesh that you are. Fighting solves nothing. I recommend some of you pick up some books on Public Relations. ScareyJones you calling the OW a foul name does nothing but make you look like the foul name you've called her. Like a scorned selfish child. Do any of you have mirrors? And I'm not talking to all of you. There are a few on this forum that I really like to read their responses. I'm talking about the ones that just fly off the handle at the OW's. IF the marriage is truly stable and happy then no one can come in between it. Thats a fact. Examine the facts. Get the facts. Remember the facts. Leave the hositility and fighting out of it. There are far more refined and classy ways to handle these types of situations.