icyjanet Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 I went out with this guy for two months, did some couplely stuff with him such as coming over to each other's house and spent days/weekends together... Two months in..he told me his feelings for me were not strong so he decided to break it off with me, and we have stayed friends since then...in between he would still be nice and go that extra miles to help me when I need, and he would let me use his apartment/car, send me flirty texts here and there..and he eventually was being upfront with me telling me that he wants to be friends with benefits with me because we had great sex...I rejected the idea in the beginning as I thought i could find someone that is serious about me, and he said I kinda gave him the impression that I want sex from him...anyways I changed my mind after a few months because I am still attracted to him...and he knows that so he went out of his way to make arrangement to meet up with me..he was determined to find me..we soon slept with each other not long after we saw each other..and the sex was even better than what we had when we were dating...after we had sex he took me out for dinner, and we had the longest dinner we have ever had(when we were dating we sometimes didn't know what to talk about..)but this time around we had a good time, he even asked me to put away my phone so that he could talk to me.. and he paid for dinner and was being nice and considerate that night. Only thing I was confused about is..when I was going to leave he told me that we should stop having sex. He said he wants to love someone and have feelings for her,etc but he said we can still hang out/text/call each other...I am confused because I thought FWB was his idea? and now he's the one that wants to stop. I know a lot of you would think that I am ok with the FWB position because I like him..well I do but I don't..there is a lot I like about him but I do know we are not a match in a relationship realistically(lots of differences, we both are too independent and selfish...etc.) and in between I have dated other guys but they all don't work out..and I am moving somewhere else so instead of sleeping with a stranger I am more comfortable sleeping with him...now it seems like he can't handle this FWB relationship..
thefooloftheyear Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 Simple... He used you, then felt a bit guilty.....Salvage whats left of your dignity and Just move on with your life... TFY 1
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 He said no to a relationship & suggested FWB. Now he's saying no to FWB. While he's honest he's not really somebody you need in your life unless the apartment & car he lets you borrow are all that. Once one of you gets a new relationship whatever is loosely connecting you will be severed you might as well end it now.
Marco Valerio Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 FWB at first was the best option for him, after not wanting a relationship with you. Once he got the FWB situation, he changed to just friends, because it was also the best for him. I would say that there's possibly another girl in the picture he prefers to f#ck. When it comes to odd situations involving an ex, there's usually selfishness behind it. I would stop any further contact with him.
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