krista28 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 I met this guy wed been talking over a month...* We've been meaning to hangout we went on a date last Saturday and he asked me for another. He wanted to hang out with me this week but I was sick. Then he said we could this weekend then ditched and said he wasnt free till sunday. And then today he said that he was busy until Monday but I work that day . I just then said forget it im looking for a guy to make me some kinda priority and he said sorry im not gonna drop my life for someone I just met.
itstoni Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I met this guy wed been talking over a month...* We've been meaning to hangout we went on a date last Saturday and he asked me for another. He wanted to hang out with me this week but I was sick. Then he said we could this weekend then ditched and said he wasnt free till sunday. And then today he said that he was busy until Monday but I work that day . I just then said forget it im looking for a guy to make me some kinda priority and he said sorry im not gonna drop my life for someone I just met. If you're looking for a guy to spend with you constantly then you did the right thing.
ad4m Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 If a guy wants to spend time with you, he will make time to see you. This clearly isn't the guy, so yes, you did the right thing.
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I met this guy wed been talking over a month...* We've been meaning to hangout we went on a date last Saturday and he asked me for another. He wanted to hang out with me this week but I was sick. Then he said we could this weekend then ditched and said he wasnt free till sunday. And then today he said that he was busy until Monday but I work that day . I just then said forget it im looking for a guy to make me some kinda priority and he said sorry im not gonna drop my life for someone I just met. What a dumb dickwomble. You didn't ask him to 'drop his life' for you. But when you 'just meet' someone, you need to at least make some kind of effort to sustain a connection, or contact - to determine the viability and feasibility of continuing a relationship!! Yes. You did the right thing. 1
Author krista28 Posted April 26, 2016 Author Posted April 26, 2016 So I've been talking to this guy over online dating for the past 2 months. He kept switching plans with me and changing when he was free..... so I kind of freaked out on him and he wont talk to me anymore. I've tried to text him obsessively but no response. Nothing... nada. What do I do..
TheBathWater Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Let it cool down for a week and try again. Because you already tried texting again though after he got upset, he may already be gone at this point.
Kamille Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Easy: move on. You don't want to be with someone who keeps swtiching plansYou freaked out on him. Plenty more fish in the sea. Lesson learned? 2
MidwestUSA Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Don't 'talk' to someone for two months without meeting! You'll have your answer a lot more quickly, and no time to build things up in your head into something they aren't. There was never anything here, move on. 2
GemmaUK Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Don't 'talk' to someone for two months without meeting! You'll have your answer a lot more quickly, and no time to build things up in your head into something they aren't. There was never anything here, move on. Along with this, don't ever obsessively text someone. If you send one text which requires a reply and you get no answer just leave it. 1
Author krista28 Posted May 3, 2016 Author Posted May 3, 2016 So recenlty I started seeing this guy. We had fun and things went well.. we went on a few dates. We slept together and then he kinda got weird..started making less effort...and it just it became like he always wanted me to be doing things and had plans and he said he wouldn't give up his life for a girl he just met..I dont know I really liked him but he just kept making me feel like last priority so I had to ditch out on him he didnt even seem to care..am I gonna hear from him again?
Truth34 Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 You may hear from him when he wants to get laid. That's probably it, though.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 If your needs were not being met, of course you did the right thing by ending things.
HillValley Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 So recenlty I started seeing this guy. We had fun and things went well.. we went on a few dates. We slept together and then he kinda got weird..started making less effort...and it just it became like he always wanted me to be doing things and had plans and he said he wouldn't give up his life for a girl he just met..I dont know I really liked him but he just kept making me feel like last priority so I had to ditch out on him he didnt even seem to care..am I gonna hear from him again? Whether he does or not isn't important. You aren't important to him. A person doesn't have to ditch plans to make alternative ones. Think about anything you've wanted in life. If it wasn't immediately available, do you just say whatever? Or did you find a way to obtain it? Make an effort. He told you straight he doesn't care in words and actions. Move on. 3
Gaeta Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 Do you really wish for a man like that to contact you again? What for? So he can reject you again and make you feel unimportant? Let it go. Like my mom told us when we were little kids: Go back outside and find someone that actually wants to play with you!
introverted1 Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 Is this the same guy you wrote about here? If it is, not sure why you are asking again since the responses in that thread were pretty much unanimous. If it is a different guy then I think you have to look at your own behavior. Are you overly clingy? Or are you just drawn to guys who say things like they won't "give up their lives" for a girl they just met.
Author krista28 Posted May 4, 2016 Author Posted May 4, 2016 It was the same guy... and he tells me that ive come on too strong and scared him off. I basically hardly said anything to him...and he freaked.
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