thewintershoulder Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 There is this girl, no boyfriend since birth, very holy and honest with her parents. I started having conversations with her before she graduated and that's 2 years ago. She knows that I like her, but she said that she's not yet ready and that she doesn't have feelings for me. So I respected her decision, and now that she is already working, I tried contacting her if we can go out sometime for a dinner and she said she'll ask her mom. And yes, I finally had dinner with her. When we went separate ways already that night, I texted her if I can go to their house and she said it's up to me. And she changed her mind because she said why will I go there and it's too far from my home. And she said again that it's up to me. And I said I'll go there to meet her parents this weekend. And she said it's up to me. Do you think I should go? I will be the first one to go to their house and when we had our dinner, she told me that her parents accidentally read my love letters for her. Any advice would be much appreciated
Author thewintershoulder Posted May 3, 2016 Author Posted May 3, 2016 please someone I really need help.
PDonnie Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 I really think the pros outweigh the cons in your case. You have no way to know if there is any future with her unless you spend some time with her around your family eventually. Just give it a shot
Author thewintershoulder Posted May 3, 2016 Author Posted May 3, 2016 Thank you. I will give it a shot. I will never know if I will never try.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 Her parents are important to her. If you don't have their approval you will be no where. So do go to her house, dress up, bring flowers for the mom & make a good impression. Have a firm handshake for the dad.
Author thewintershoulder Posted May 3, 2016 Author Posted May 3, 2016 Hey dude thank you very much. Should I shake her father's hand? Because I'm from the Philippines and we have a gesture as a sign of respect to elders and as a way of accepting a blessing from the elder.
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 I'm a woman not a dude. If the cultural norm is this sign of respect, do that. I'm an American. The norm is a handshake. Whatever you do, get the parents on your side because they have huge influence over their daughter by her own admission. If they like you then even if she's on the fence she will probably date you because they think you are a good guy.
Author thewintershoulder Posted May 3, 2016 Author Posted May 3, 2016 Sorry ma'am and thank you. Yes, it's a big sign of respect. It is called "Mano" here in the Philippines. Similar to hand-kissing, the person giving the greeting bows towards the offered hand of the elder and presses his or her forehead on the elder's hand. I will take your advice and will go to their house this weekend. I will update you all of what ever will happen
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