truth_seeker Posted May 8, 2016 Posted May 8, 2016 One thing for sure: It's over. She went away on holiday to get away from you and think... that means: do I really want to be with this guy? Which then results: I don't want to be with this guy. I think from all the posts in this thread, she either met another guy or is wanting to be with other guys. One poster made a great point: be the first to bail. I also recommend after you bail, you hit the nearest strip club, have a couple shots of Johnny Walker and light up the champagne room.
Author accident_prone Posted May 8, 2016 Author Posted May 8, 2016 so she texted me today and confirmed coming over tomorrow night to talk and made sure i wanted to still and she apologized for this happening and said she didnt realize it would take so much/so long for her to sort herself out and that she really does want to talk and figure things out. so i mean its cool that she wants to do that and seems sincere, but i am still skeptical i guess? probably not the right word but its the first that comes to mind. how should i approach this meet up tomorrow? on monday we took that space apart and left things so ambiguous. of course i want to be with her but i want to know shes sincere if she says the same but this all coming out of nowhere has made me super defensive i guess.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 There really isn't much you can do but listen to whatever it is she has to say. There's no "approach" for you to take, so to speak; you didn't break it off. All you can do is let her know you're not happy about it and feel very confused. I would also make it clear that if she chooses to leave, that's her prerogative but you will consider it done and make a clean break from her. Given her age and her apparently sudden change of heart, I think it's not going to work out very well. Her desire to be free and independent in her early 20s is understandable but I think there's more eating at her. The fact that she's reiterated she wants to be independent tells me she just isn't ready to commit to you, whatever the real reason is. Not to be totally cynical, but I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you.
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