Athena21 Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 My boyfriend just broke it off a few days ago and I spoke to him this morning. I told him that he can't just break it off now and think that I will be there to take him back when he has everything straightened out in his life. I want him back though. I know that I shouldn't tell him that though. What do I do!?
s13 Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 I just broke up with my girlfriend and feel the same as you. However, you have to be strong and don't beg for him to come back. If you start moving on with your life, he'll notice that and will think about what he's done. You need to give him time to start missing you. He wants to keep you on the backburner until he can straighten out his life. You'll just be miserable if you hang on and wait for him. Keep yourself busy and start living your own life. Hope that helps a little.
Lonestar Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Ignore him. Don't call him, don't contact him, don't answer his calls. If you feel the need to pick up the phone when it rings, tell him you're busy and you'll call him back in an hour. Then don't call him back. When he calls you again, tell him you forgot. Then get off the phone quick and ignore him again. He'll come running. Chase him and he'll run in the other direction.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 If your boyfriend does not want a relationship with you right now, there is absolutely nothing you can do to make him come back to you. All you can do is let him know how you feel - that you want to be with him, but that you respect his wishes to move on without you. Then wish him well, and let him walk away. Give yourself a long period of 'no contact' in which you do not have contact with him in any way, shape or form while you are getting over this breakup. This 'no contact' is for you to get your head and heart back in order after the breakup. This will also keep him from fence-sitting and giving you false hope and wishful thinking. If he is ready to break up, then he needs to just go and leave you alone so you can get over this. If you aren't in contact with him, then it will be easier for you to let go of the false hope and wishful thinking that you might get back together. Do not offer 'friendship', and do not accept an offer of 'friendship'. As long as there are unresolved romantic issues, a friendship is not possible and to pretend to be friends when you want more is unfair to both of you. Don't let his last memories of your relationship be poor ones. He will think more fondly of you for being willing to let go, than if you try to force him to come back. If he does decide to come back, it won't be to someone who tried to force him to stay, or who left him with terrible parting memories.
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