v3o3d3 Posted May 2, 2016 Posted May 2, 2016 Ive been single my whole life. Ive never felt this lonely/low before. Since ive hit my 30's its almost as if an added pressure has been put on me, like times running out. Im not very confident when it comes to talking to women i find attractive, my fight or flight reaction kicks in and its always flight. I feel like im 15 years behind in terms of relationship skills. But im too afraid to do anything about it. I have on the rare occasion been able to ask girls out or tell them how i feel. Recently i asked a former work colleague on a date over social media, but she only sees me as a friend. Because of my lack of experience and options with women i tend to put all of my eggs in one basket so to speak. It doesnt help that people i work with, mainly the girls, talk about who theyre dating/sleeping with on a regular basis. Its sort of like sticking it in my face on what im missing out on. Im just at a loss of what to do.
HillValley Posted May 3, 2016 Posted May 3, 2016 (edited) Ive been single my whole life. Ive never felt this lonely/low before. Since ive hit my 30's its almost as if an added pressure has been put on me, like times running out. Im not very confident when it comes to talking to women i find attractive, my fight or flight reaction kicks in and its always flight. I feel like im 15 years behind in terms of relationship skills. But im too afraid to do anything about it. I have on the rare occasion been able to ask girls out or tell them how i feel. Recently i asked a former work colleague on a date over social media, but she only sees me as a friend. Because of my lack of experience and options with women i tend to put all of my eggs in one basket so to speak. It doesnt help that people i work with, mainly the girls, talk about who theyre dating/sleeping with on a regular basis. Its sort of like sticking it in my face on what im missing out on. Im just at a loss of what to do. The honest truth a lot of guys don't tell you is they didn't get good with women by only going after the ones they were attracted to. Social interaction is a skill, and like any skill, you have to work on it even when you don't want to. You may not like it, but you're going to have to interact with all kinds of women if you want to strengthen your skill set to the point it becomes an involuntary reaction to work through the interaction and not something you fly out of immediately. Start by going to some place you have something that interest you and the woman. Ex. You like comics? Go a convention and start a brief conversation with all the women there. Cosplayers, pros, groups. You like gardening? Go to a Home Depot class and have brief conversations with the women there. Old/young/married/single don't matter. Emphasis on brief. Edited May 3, 2016 by HillValley
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